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38 wellness
Is Someone Holding
You Back In Life?
Do you have big ambitions?
Want to make changes in your
life? Or maybe achieve something
particular like gain a promotion
at work, move to a better
neighbourhood or improve your
health?
It’s natural to think that
making positive changes would be
something that your loved ones
would be supportive of. But, quite
often, you might find that those
closest to you fail to provide the
encouragement you hoped for.
This can be disappointing and
unexpected.
Perhaps your best friend
constantly undermines your
attempts to lose weight by
tempting you with unhealthy
treats. Or maybe your partner talks
you out of going for a promotion
at work. Or perhaps your parents
discourage you from achieving
your dreams.
It can be frustrating but try to
understand why they behave this
way and it becomes easier to deal
with. Their lack of enthusiasm
could be a simple case of jealousy
– for instance the friend who
doesn’t want you to have a better
life than they currently have. But,
more often, it’s because your loved
one is afraid of losing you. For
example, your partner might feel
that if you become more successful
at work, it could lead to you
breaking up with them if their own
ambitions don’t match your. Or
maybe your parents feel that if you
moved house or landed a top job
it might mean you moving away
from them.
Talk to your loved ones about
why you want to make changes
and explain that it won’t affect
your relationship and often you’ll
find that they become more
supportive.
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