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exit rampFinding Lovein a PandemicDrastic times call for drastic measures—like divingheadlong into a new relationship. By Shelby VittekWhen Covid-19 made itsway to New Jersey inmid-March, I was severalweeks into dating a new guy. I metHayden on a dating app, and we hadonly been on a handful of dates inJersey City (where I live) and Brooklyn(where he lives). Then came the lockdown.Suddenly, we were faced with anultimatum: Would we shelter in placetogether, or separately?“I guess quarantine is a great timeto find out if you’re compatible or not,”Hayden joked. He had a point, but I wasworried. Not seeing each other for anindefinite period of time might abruptlyend what seemed like a really goodthing. But would spending all our timetogether during a pandemic turn out tobe a disaster?Having lived alone for the past sevenyears, I am unaccustomed to having aroommate, let alone sharing my spacewith a romantic partner. Still, these aredifferent times.We dove right in. Within 24 hours,the relationship went from third date tounofficially living together. My friendstold me I was absolutely nuts; I secretlyshared their concern.Six weeks later, Hayden and I haveadjusted to our new way of life. It wasunusual, figuring out cohabitationwhile also navigating a new relationship.But so far, so good. We startedworking from home in tandem, Haydenat his desktop computer, me on mylaptop at a folding table he set up in hisroom. (I eventually moved my “office”to his absent roommate’s room.) Everyweekday, we pause for lunch together.At the end of the workday, we migratedownstairs to make dinner, movingaround the kitchen in sync. Haydenalmost always done the dishes, even ifhe’s also does most of the cooking.We’ve nurtured our relationshipwithout the usual date options: nomeeting up with friends at bars, nogoing out for dinner, no shows orconcerts. With the outside worldclosed, we have found entertainmentelsewhere. There was a virtual doubledate with my friends in North Carolina.We used Zoom and FaceTime to meeteach other’s families, staes away. Weuse gaming apps like Houseparty andJackbox to video chat and play gameswith our friends. But mostly, we spendquality time together, and our relationshiphas grown into something official—something serious.When we do go out—for groceries,wine and beer—we don our masks andclutch our hand sanitizer. On weekends,we drive back to my apartment to dolaundry, traversing a deserted downtownManhattan and holding hands in the HollandTunnel until we emerge in Jersey.The coronavirus pandemic has keptmost people apart. For Hayden andme, it’s had the opposite effect. Lifetogether is shockingly good. It feelsnormal, even though the world outsideis anything but.ILLUSTRATION: TRINA DALZIEL72 JUNE 2020 NJMONTHLY.COM
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