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Inspiring Women : November 2020

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name. George or Mrs. Sanders or Professor.<br />

You might say, “Hey George, about time you<br />

showed up,” which now makes clear that<br />

your partner has a name and is late. Late to<br />

what? Where? Who are you? If you trust your<br />

improv, you wait to find out. It is your<br />

partner who will name you and flesh out the<br />

situation. He or she could say, “Yeah, boss,<br />

I’m sorry, the cat died” or “Look Fred, this<br />

wedding thing - I can’t go through with it.”<br />

Now maybe you were expecting a different<br />

answer like “Sorry, Sarah, I was out with the<br />

boys,” and instead you got “yeah, the space aliens from under the volcano jumped out, and I had to<br />

kill them all, but one of them had a giant death ray gun so, I had to die a couple times, but I kept<br />

coming back” which could leave you just staring at your partner. I mean, space aliens? Volcano?<br />

That’s insane and perhaps for a moment you consider trying to force the scene back to where Sarah<br />

leaves him for good.<br />

But that’s bad improv. The story has now<br />

changed. You now have two choices. You could<br />

accept the aliens as being real world and say<br />

something like, “Oh, that explains all the<br />

explosions I heard while getting dinner ready.<br />

Glad you made it,” or “Oh, I get it. You were<br />

playing that old video game your father used to<br />

play, ‘Space Volcano.’ He loved that game.“ The<br />

real joy of improv story telling is trying to figure<br />

out how to say yes to whatever comes out of the<br />

moment you are in.<br />

Way back those ten years ago, I also started using<br />

improv Just Say Yes in the real world. I come from<br />

a family that deeply valued being prepared for<br />

anything. I can leave the house with both a<br />

sweater and a t-shirt in case the temperature changes, yet sometimes life is better met<br />

unprepared. Just Say Yes helped me say yes to moving to Germany. Just Say Yes has led to many<br />

adventures around the world. Just Say Yes has made room for unexpected gifts to appear in my life.<br />

I want to tell you a story, but I also want you to tell that story with me. Together we can discover the<br />

story that wants to be told.<br />

Anitra Kitts is a writer, Presbyterian minister,<br />

weaver, and improver. Anitra was born in Oregon,<br />

which she still considers her home base, and<br />

moved with her husband to Munich from the Bay<br />

area in California in 2012. Anitra is a member of<br />

an all women improv group called Service’s Out<br />

and has come to the conclusion that improv is not<br />

zoom friendly. A past president of the Munich<br />

International <strong>Women</strong>’s Club, Anitra is grateful for<br />

all the communities that women create together.<br />

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