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gifts with the world. As long as we
are trying to be like everyone else,
we will always feel inadequate and
find evidence of how we are not
enough. When we are trying to fit
into a box that someone else built
and live up to the standards that
others have set, we will always fall
short; we will never fit in; we will
always feel like we don’t belong.
This creates a fundamental
experience of separation.
The good news is that when
we stand up, own our uniqueness
by being fully authentic, we
each play an essential role in the
healing of the whole. Every single
one of us has an essential part to
play. When we watch a movie, we
can see how each character adds
value and depth to the overall
script. If everyone were playing
the same character, the movie
would be a bust.
Some of us have a small role
and some have a bigger role to
play, but each role is essential. One
person’s version of playing small
may be another person’s version
of playing big. It is not about
comparing ourselves with others.
Comparison is a game of judgment
that makes us feel inadequate no
When we shift
from the fear of
comparison to
the energy of
cooperation, we
shift into being a
contribution to all
of humanity.
matter what we are doing or not
doing. By comparing ourselves,
we will collect enough evidence
to convince ourselves that we
will never be, do, or have enough.
Comparison always crushes
creativity, insight, and intuition.
When we shift from the fear
of comparison to the energy of
cooperation, we shift into being
a contribution to all of humanity.
We honor the role each of us
has to play and we are willing
to contribute to the whole by
playing our role fully, wholly, and
completely. We return to love and
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