Welcome to The Club Spring 2023

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Evolution Geneology
A little girl asked her mother, “How did the
human race appear?” The mother answered,
“God made Adam and Eve and they had
children and so was all mankind made.”
Two days later the girl asked her father the same
question. The father answered, “Many years ago there
were monkeys from which the human race evolved.”
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The confused girl returned to her mother and said, “Mom, how is
it possible that you told me the human race was created by God,
and Dad said they developed from monkeys?” The mother
answered, “Well dear... it is very simple. I told you about my side
of the family and your father told you about his.”
The Wellness Corner
by Marion Clouse • from Daytripping Jan-Feb 2005
We often think of forgiveness as
something that someone who has
done us wrong must ask of US. On the
contrary, forgiveness is a gift you give
to yourself. Many of us create rules
inside our head for how people should
behave; when people break the rules,
we resent them. We grow up believing
that we can punish others by refusing
to forgive them, “If I don’t forgive you,
you suffer.” Actually, it’s the other way
around. By refusing to forgive others, it’s
you that suffers. To not forgive others
is like taking the poison and expecting
them to die! YOU get the knot in your
stomach; YOU are the one to lose sleep.
We all live our lives the best way we
know how. We make a lot of mistakes
along the way, sometimes we act on
misinformation, sometimes we do
stupid things, yet we are still doing it
the best way we know. Blaming others
gets us nowhere. If something is done,
it is done. Griping about it changes
nothing. People do what they do from
knowing what they know. Whether you
make them the guilty ones makes no
difference – except that it ruins your
life. Things are the way they are. If a
hurricane floods your basement, do you
say: “I’ll never forgive the weather?” If
a seagull poops on your head, do you
resent the seagull? Then why resent
people? We are no more meant to
control people than we are meant to
control rainstorms and seagulls.
Choice is always present in forgiveness.
You do not have to forget. Forgive
and forget is a myth. You may never
forget, but you can CHOOSE to forgive.
Refusing to forgive by holding on to
the anger, resentment and a sense
of betrayal can make your own life
miserable. If you refuse to forgive your
brother-in-law for not inviting you to his
Christmas party, you suffer. He doesn’t
get the ulcers, he doesn’t lose the sleep,
"Forgiveness"
he isn’t upset, he doesn’t get the nasty
taste in his mouth. You do.
To withhold forgiveness is to choose
to continue to remain the victim.
Remember, you always have choice.
The hurts won’t heal until you forgive.
Healthy relationships are not possible
without forgiveness! You cannot have
a loving and rewarding relationship
with anyone else, much less yourself if
you continue to hold on to things that
happened in the past. Regardless of the
situation, making peace with past love
partners, your parents, your children,
your boss or anyone who you think may
have “done you wrong” is the only way
to improve your chances of a “healthy”
relationship with yourself or anyone
else. Forgiveness means choosing to
let go, to move one, and to favour the
positive.
Six steps to forgiving.
1. Choose one person you need to
forgive.
2. List your feelings and the cause of
your anger.
3. Empathize by trying to understand
the other person’s views, and by
understanding that you, too, are capable
of hurting others.
4. Reflect and imagine how forgiveness
would change the situation.
5. Discuss your thoughts and feelings
with a trusted person.
6. Consider whether reconciliation is
desirable or possible.
When we do choose to forgive, a
marvelous principle comes into
operation. As we change, others change.
As we alter our attitude toward others,
they begin to alter their behaviour.
Somehow, the moment we choose to
change the way we see things, others
respond to our changed expectations.
Forgiveness is a creative act that changes
us from prisoners of the past to liberated
people at peace with our memories.
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