Second Friend Day - Elmer Towns
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CHAPTER THREE<br />
CHRISTIANS HELP THEIR FRIENDS<br />
Usually, we do not form a friendship to help the other person. <strong>Friend</strong>s take one<br />
another for what they are, and usually will not try to improve their buddies. That is what<br />
makes friendship so great. There is no pressure to improve, and there are no strings<br />
attached. However, in every relationship there comes a time when a good friend must<br />
help his buddy. We can anonymously send them a package of roll-on deodorant rather<br />
than talk about perspiration or we can offer them a breath mint. But suppose they do not<br />
take the hint? Following are suggestions on how to help your friends.<br />
1. Be an example of what you expect. You teach your friends what you<br />
know, and you reproduce in their life what you are. If we are role models for our friends,<br />
we may be able to help them in their Christian walk. Paul was a role model to young<br />
Timothy and to those in the new churches that he planted. He told them, "Be ye followers<br />
of me, even as I also am of Christ" (I Corinthians 11:1 and Phillipians 3:17). Paul's life<br />
exemplified commitment to the cause of Christ despite persecution (2 Corinthians 11:22-<br />
33; 12:10), refusal to become entangled with the attractions of this present world,<br />
contentment with such things as he had (Phillipians 4:11; II Timothy 2:3-4), and holiness<br />
(abstaining from evil and fleeing from even any appearance of it (I Thessalonians 5:22; II<br />
Timothy 2:22)).<br />
A good friend will also exemplify considerateness. He will take into<br />
consideration what his friend knows, feels, and wants. Proverbs 27:14 warns about not<br />
considering the feelings of others when it says, "He that blesseth his friend with a loud<br />
voice, rising early in the morning, it shall be counted a curse to him." Before we<br />
enthusiastically begin our own program, we must consider where our friend is, and act<br />
accordingly, lest our well-intended actions fall at such an inappropriate time that they are<br />
taken for curses. For our instruction, Matthew 7:12 counsels, 'Therefore all things<br />
whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law<br />
and the prophets."<br />
A good friend will also demonstrate a deep commitment and an abiding loyalty.<br />
They will stand by their friend in good times and bad. Jonathan was such a friend to<br />
David, remaining his friend despite his father's displeasure at their friend,hip. And<br />
Barnabas was such a friend to Paul (Acts 11:25-26). When the other apostles avoided<br />
Paul, Barnabas sought him out and spent a year working with him.<br />
2. Encourage and motivate them. The best way to help a friend is to "stretch<br />
their dreams" of what they can do and what they can become. We may have to motivate<br />
them. When we let them know how they must improve, and then give them methods, we<br />
have helped them.<br />
We should treat our friends like winners, putting a "10" on their foreheads. This<br />
simply means that we look at them as though they have the potential to be the best. Too<br />
often we look at people and size them up with a low number. When we do that, they<br />
respond according to our assessment. When we put a " 10" on our friends' foreheads and<br />
think the best of them, they will usually try harder just to please us.<br />
There are four steps to motivating our friends. First, we must appreciate them.<br />
<strong>Second</strong>, we must anticipate what they can do. Third, we must recognize their