Second Friend Day - Elmer Towns

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CHAPTER FOUR FRIENDS WHO HELP US Four kinds of friends help us. First, there is the counselor-friend who guides us through our problems. Second, there is the hero-friend who motivates us to achieve greater things. Third, there is the teacher-friend who instructs us and gives us wisdom. And fourth, there is the coach-friend who supports and encourages us. A COUNSELOR-FRIEND GUIDES US THROUGH PROBLEMS Who is a counselor-friend? These are friends with whom we spend most of our time talking. When we are discouraged, they have coffee with us, and when we are confused, they sit and listen. They do not always give us advice, but they are there to listen. As our counselor-friend listens to us, we are able to see ourselves better. They allow us to ventilate our feelings to get the bitterness or disappointment out of the way. Sometimes we blow off steam to them, but never at them. When we see our anger through their eyes, we learn to control it. When we look into a pool, we cannot see if the water is clear until we brush away the foam on the top. A counselor-friend helps us push away the foam of our anger so we can understand our feelings. Our counselor-friends do not condemn us, reject us, or hide the truth from us. The counselor-friend is not a professional analyst and does not have a technical relationship to us, but nevertheless they help us. They do not pull scabs off our wounds and hurt us, but like the Good Shepherd, they anoint our head with oil. Oil soothes, takes away the pain, and restores normal functions. So the oil of a counselor-friend is good for us and eases the pain of life. Blessed is the person who has a counselor-friend, for he has someone to help him through the problems of life. A HERO-FRIEND MOTIVATES US Everyone needs a friend who is a little higher, someone to lift them up. We look up to these friends because of their accomplishments, their character, or their skills. We want to be like them; thus, they become our role models. A hero-friend is like a radar beam to an airplane. They point us to where we want to go. When we zero in on their signal, they guide us through the rough spots to our goal in life. Sometimes our hero-friend is actually above us. At other times they are our equals. No matter where they are, two things are important. First, they are usually where we want to be or what we want to be. Second, they relate to us. Therefore, they help us. Our hero-friend reflects what we want to become. They motivate us to sacrifice and work to become better. Our hero-friend makes us winners. Where a counselorfriend supports us in our problems, a hero-friend gives us a dream of solving problems. They are different from each other, yet both help in positive ways. When we change hero-friends, we are usually changing our life's direction. Our hero-friend usually reflects where we will be ten years from now. When we make a hero-
friend of someone with non-Christian attitudes, we are walking away from Jesus Christ. When our hero-friend is walking toward Jesus Christ, we are pointed in the right direction. A hero-friend is usually dedicated to something larger than himself. This is why we respect them. Their goodness is measured by the goodness of their task. Sometimes our hero-friend is a grandparent, other times a parent, or they may be a band director in high school, our shop teacher, or some accomplished musician. When they have skills greater than ours, we do not meet them on equal ground. But our hero-friend gives us something that is greater than the friendship they share with us. Our hero-friend gives us dreams, motivation, and the determination to succeed. Blessed is the person who has a hero-friend, for he has dreams. For with dreams, there is hope and a future. A TEACHER-FRIEND INSTRUCTS US The third friend who helps us is our teacher. This individual is not always a professional teacher in a public school or college. They may not be a teacher in our Sunday School or technical place of instruction. Our teacher-friend instructs us in our relationship to them. Teaching is meeting needs. Our teacher-friend meets a deep need in our hearts. In the counselor-friend relationship, we do most of the talking. However, in the teacher-friend relationship, they do most of the talking. Again, our relationship is not an equal one. Our teacher-friend usually knows about much more than just the problem of the moment; therefore, we receive from them. We may know more about many things than our teacher-friend; however, they have expertise in one area, and they use that knowledge to help us. To illustrate, take the friendship between a university professor who has just gotten saved and a salesman at a hardware store who is his Sunday School teacher. Where the university professor has a Ph.D. and is knowledgeable about many secular things, the hardware salesman knows the Word of God. Therefore, in this relationship the hardware salesman is the teacher, and the Ph.D. is the student. A teacher-friend has three functions. First, they tell us facts. For example, they may give us facts about flying or facts about the opera. Second, they teach us skills, such as knitting, sailing, or working with ceramics. Third, they work on our attitudes. They may teach us the Bible, how to live according to its precepts, or how to witness. Blessed is the person who has a teacher-friend, for he shall learn. And a learned man has a future. A COACH-FRIEND SUPPORTS US A coach does not guide us through problems. That comes from our counselorfriend. A coach does not give us dreams. That comes from our hero-friend. A coach does not give us systematic instruction. That comes from our teacher-friend. A coach puts us through training and encourages us. A coach-friend, like a football coach or a Lamaze coach, may tell us some facts, but they deal mostly in the areas of encouragement and support. They take the lessons we learn from others and help us make them work. A coach-friend may be somebody
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Elmer Towns Larry Gilbert Contribut
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Lesson 3 - Andrew Brings Peter to J
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OVERVIEW OF SECOND FRIEND DAY The S
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� Hand out “Who Are My Friends?
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serve a continental breakfast of Da
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are going so poorly that God has fo
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Faithfulness is doing what needs to
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enemies. On the cross He uttered, "
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