Eating Disorders - fieldi
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154 Young Adult Women<br />
of the symptom. First, we acknowledge together the realization<br />
that the symptom is not working as well as it used to. Next, we<br />
acknowledge together the symptom’s absence entirely. Therapist<br />
and patient are totally in tandem during this process. I must overtly<br />
acknowledge the loss and fears of not having one’s “best friend”<br />
anymore as a way of coping with life. My patients are both terrified<br />
and sad. I let them know that I know this, but I cannot take<br />
away the pain and frustration. I encourage discussion about the<br />
loss and the feelings that are rapidly surfacing. Mourning often<br />
includes the young woman’s singing the praises of the “deceased.”<br />
This is part of the recovery process. I listen. Usually, directly following<br />
this stage comes the terror of, “What do I do now, ‘without<br />
the deceased’ ” (i.e., the symptom)? Keeping in character with this<br />
metaphor, the individual may need to resurrect the “deceased”<br />
from time to time and become symptomatic. When the symptom<br />
is rendered powerless by the patient, another level of mourning via<br />
understanding is reached, usually accompanied by greater sadness,<br />
deeper fear, and often great anxiety. Finally the patient realizes<br />
that the notion “If I’m thin, it will all come together” is the ultimate<br />
myth that must be put to rest. Truth, as only truth can be for<br />
each individual, must evolve in its stead.<br />
Because eating disorders are so pervasive, acknowledging any single<br />
success along the way is essential in the treatment process. Furthermore,<br />
negatives serve no purpose, as these individuals have, for<br />
the most part, negated themselves with their own self-scorn and<br />
hatred far beyond what the therapist will ever fully know. For these<br />
reasons, wherever possible, I eliminate the negative implications<br />
that arise in the treatment environment and am careful to avoid negative<br />
verbal constructs. One does not take steps backward; one may<br />
make a lateral move. One does not have a slip; one has an episode. And<br />
because one cannot undo what one has already accomplished, one is<br />
never “back to square one.” If ever the concept to “accentuate the positive,<br />
and eliminate the negative” were to apply, it is in the treatment<br />
of eating disorders.<br />
There is no one exact way to treat or view individuals. I find that<br />
we therapists only get into trouble when we generalize. I am<br />
annoyed when I hear professionals talking about “eating-disordered<br />
women,” as though they were Stepford Wives—all branded,