Aries June 2014

Q.
I’m dating
a new
guy, and he’s
great except
that he’s somewhat
of a slob
when he eats.
He gets food
in his teeth, on
his face, and
sometimes...
on his clothes.
It’s embarrassing!
How do I
get him to eat
like a civilized
adult?
A
This can be a tricky subject,
given your relationship is
still fresh. You want to approach it
in a positive way so you don’t come
off confrontational. Being a sloppy
eater is acceptable when you’re 5,
not when you’re out on a date with
your boyfriend and in public. It can
absolutely be embarrassing and make
you feel uncomfortable when you
go out. It’s a reasonable request and
is definitely something that can be
changed if it’s approached the right
way. All men can be messy eaters
and some may not realize it until
someone points it out and it can take
someone he cares about to bring it up
before he can consider changing his
ways. Be kind when you are trying
to let him know. It may hurt his ego
at first, but hopefully he thinks about
it and realizes that he does look like
pig in public. Be gentle!
Q.
I go on a
lot of first,
second, and
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third dates. It
seems that the
guys are interested
in me as
I am into them.
But then they
disappear. Why
is that?
A
Well depending on what you
do on these dates, the other
guy can think it’s moving too fast
or too slow. Some guys just like to
“play the roll” and expect you to
put out after a few dates and if you
don’t then they just move on. If you
are looking for an actual relationship
then those types of guys are not for
you. On the other hand you may
be taking it too fast on these dates.
Taking it too fast isn’t a good thing
unless you two are on the same page.
You want to leave room for imagination
and if you spend so much time
with each other at first and rush into
things, it makes it so you don’t have
anything to look forward to. Relationship
work out best if you take it
slow. Nothing beats a relationship
that has a really good foundation
beneath it.
Q.
My boss
and I have
been dating
in secret for
some time. He
has promoted
me to a higher
rank in the
workplace. He
told me that
when we make
it official that
he won’t get
into trouble. I
feel like if we
decide to break
up, is he going
to demote me?
Should I feel
this way and
be worried?
A
Having office relationships
can be tricky, especially
when it is with your superior. Hopefully
when you got promoted it was
based on your capabilities at your
job and not on your relationship
with the boss. The type of guy that
your boyfriend is, or the cause of
your potential future break up, will
determine if this will have an impact
on your job title or not. If you have
a mutual break up then I don’t see
too much concern how this can affect
your job, but on the other hand, if it
is a messy one or if it was something
you specifically to cause the break
up then that’s where you run the risk
of having him take it out on you at
work. That’s part of the risk though
when it comes to dating your boss.
Most likely if he is already a boss
then he would have had to have good
justification to promote you and he
will be questioned if he decides to
demote you if things don’t work out
and he probably won’t want to risk
that and keep things how they are at
work. Either way it is a tough situation
to be in so I say that feeling worried
about it is definitely appropriate,
you may feel it is worth the risk then
making it official is the next step
in your relationship and it can even
strengthen it since it shows you two
don’t care what others think and in
the end you’ll be happier since you
don’t have to feel like you are sneaking
around or keeping any secrets.
Make sure to keep it professional at
work and pleasure outside it.