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Love & Relationships
Chiedza Mebe
The friendzone is a term coined
in popular culture to describe a
platonic relationship, in which
one of the friends, usually
the man, wants more than the platonic
relationship. The man often seeks out
a romantic or sexual relationship with
the friend, however, the sad news is the
woman prefers to contain the relationship
and maintain their friendship status.
For most men, the primal hunters who
go in for their prey with skilful elegance
and get what they want, the friendzone
best to stay away and avoid the friendzone
with a woman who he is attracted to. Ask
any man who has experienced this and
to be. They might even encourage you to
run like you’ve never run before.
The friendzone has been known to cause
a lot of frustration for most as this
eventually leads to the breakdown of the
friendship as well, or lead one down the
road of torture, where one has to pretend
to be okay with just being friends, while
the woman goes on talking about the man
have been friendzone
Other signs include she suggests you
always hang out as a group, you get no
special treatment, physical contact
is never long, shows no interest,
compliments you on how
good of a friend you are and
the worst one is when she
refers to you as her bestie
(best friend).
For some men it takes
a while to accept that
they have been put in the
friendzone, for others, they
quickly move on. After all it’s the
right thing to do. A wiser man,
might stick around,
in the hopes
they might get
introduced to
the woman’s
e q u a l l y
attractive
s i n g l e
f r i e n d s .
It can’t possibly be wrong to do this,
besides if you’re just friends they should
deserves to be put in her own friendzone
if she can do it, so can you.
If however, you are still keen on being
with this woman or you foresee a woman
you’re attracted to putting you in this
place (the friendzone), here’s some advice
on how to avoid this situation.
Try not to get too comfortable with her,
because the last thing you want is for her
to start seeing you as her friend or worse
in and discuss other men with. Instead be
a man, get your primal instincts on and
go in for the kill. It’s as simple making
your intentions known and making them
known fast. The sooner the better, keep
that in mind. What’s the worst that could
happen? It’s either a yes or a no, which is
better than being stuck in the confusion,
the friendzone brings.
Take the plunge and ask her out on a date
(a real date), not one that you would take
your friend out. If she’s the one you want
to be with, you have to make an effort.
Women love to be spoiled, go ahead and do
that. Chances are if she agrees
to go out on a date, you
goodbye to the
friendzone.
Inaction is one of the deadliest traits that
the jail cell of the friendzone. Make a
move before she does, and when she does
it will probably be followed with this
statement, “You’re such a great friend.”
Everything about this statement is clear
you are just a friend, yes, just a friend.
It’s your fault if your dream about being
with this woman is crushed in this very
instance. Stop playing it cool and lean
in for that kiss, remember to stay sober
when you do it and choose the right time.
Do not wait for someone with the big
This is tricky but true on
many levels. However,
it would be sadder to
see yourself helping
her choose a dress
for a date she’s going
on with some other
guy. After this you
should know staying away
from being friends to begin
with might not be such a
bad idea. Being
honest
Page 40 The Parade - Zimbabwe’s Most Read Lifestyle Magazine
August 2014