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they are so unlovable and unworthy that to stay in a dysfunctional, destructive relationship is the best and safest way to live. Codependent people who believe they can’t survive without their partners do anything they can to stay in their relationships, however painful. The fear of losing their partners and being abandoned overpowers any other feelings they might have. The thought of trying to address any of their partner’s dysfunctional behaviours makes them feel unsafe. Excusing or denying a problem like addiction means they avoid rejection by their partners. Instead, as in the example above, coaddicted people often will try to adapt themselves and their lives to their partners’ dysfunction. They might have abandoned hope that something better is possible, instead settling for the job of maintaining the status quo. The thought of change might cause them great pain and sadness. Codependence works the same way, whether the addiction is drugs, alcohol or something else, such as sex, gambling, verbal or physical abuse, work or a hobby. If the addicts’ behaviour causes worry, forcing the partners to adjust to and deny the problem, they are at great risk of becoming codependent. Those who were abused as children face an even greater risk. Checklist for family members of people with Mental Health Disorders (Article by Patty E. Fleener M.S.W.) I wanted to touch on codependency. It seems like an old subject yet people are hurt by this "condition" so often and so many of us have these issues and are not aware. Why do I bring this up in a mental health website? Most person with a mental health disorder has a family member. If you are the family member, check yourself out for these behaviours quickly and if you can't relate then move on. Just because those of us who have mental health <strong>disorders</strong> may not be a family member of someone with a mental health disorder, doesn't mean we don't have a problem with codependency and it is very difficult to work on recovery when our focus is always on someone else. In fact, downright impossible. So many family members are focusing completely on the person who has the mental health disorder that they are not in touch with their own needs at all. This is not only unhealthy for the family member but for the person with the disorder as well.
You must learn to get your life back and as the author Melodie Beattie says "lovingly detaching." You are not on this earth to take care of your partner or your daughter or your cousin, etc. Let me repeat that. You are not on this earth to take care of your partner or your daughter or your cousin, etc. That may be a part of your life and a very important part of your life. But that is not the only reason you are on this earth and that is not the only thing that defines you. You must find out who you are and become that person once again. You must be that person you were before you knew "that person" and have that person in your life as well. What does it feel like if you have been around someone strongly codependent? I felt violated. My boundaries were crossed. I felt extremely angry and upset. I felt manipulated and power was taken away from me that belonged to me. I had always heard that 50% of chemically dependent people are codependent. My husband who attends AA says the joke there is that it is 100%. So I do not know what the exact figures are. 27
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Tests and diagnosis Narcissistic pe
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Narcissistic Relationships Narcissi
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Borderline Personality Disorder Tre
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Self-Help Self-help methods for the
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ONLINE TEST The following "test" ma
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Bipolar II Disorder-Depressed* In b
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Self-Injurious Behaviours and Suici
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Anxiety and Panic Attack Symptoms C
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Identifying the symptoms of ADHD in
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