personality disorders explained
Antisocial Personality Disorder, Codependence, Narcissism and Borderline
Antisocial Personality Disorder, Codependence, Narcissism and Borderline
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The 12 Steps to Recovery for<br />
Codependents<br />
From: Choicemaking by Sharon<br />
Wegscheider Cruse<br />
1. We acknowledge and accept that we<br />
are powerless in controlling the lives of<br />
others, and that trying to control others<br />
makes our lives unmanageable.<br />
2. We have come to believe that a<br />
power greater than ourselves can<br />
restore enough order and hope in our<br />
lives to move us to a growth framework.<br />
3. We make a decision to turn our lives<br />
over to this power to the best of our<br />
ability, and honestly accept that taking<br />
responsibility for ourselves is the only<br />
way growth is possible.<br />
4. We make an inventory of ourselves,<br />
looking for our mental, emotional,<br />
spiritual, physical, volitional, and social<br />
assets and liabilities. We look at what<br />
we have, how we use it, and how we<br />
can acquire what we need.<br />
5. Using this inventory as a guide, we<br />
admit to ourselves, to God as we<br />
understood him, and to other caring<br />
persons, the exact nature of what is<br />
within that is causing ourselves pain.<br />
6. We give to God as we know him all<br />
former pain, hurt, and mistakes,<br />
resentments and bitterness, anger, and<br />
guilt. We trust that we can let go of the<br />
hurt that we cause and receive.<br />
16 Steps for Discovery and<br />
Empowerment<br />
From: Many Roads, One Journey;<br />
Moving Beyond the 12 Steps by<br />
Charlotte Kasl Ph.D.<br />
1. We affirm we have the power to<br />
take charge of our lives and stop being<br />
dependent on substances or other<br />
people for our self-esteem and security.<br />
2. We come to believe that God /the<br />
Goddess /Universe /Great Spirit /Higher<br />
Power awakens the healing wisdom<br />
within us when we open ourselves to<br />
that power.<br />
3. We make a decision to become our<br />
authentic Selves and trust in the healing<br />
power of Truth.<br />
4. We examine our beliefs, addictions,<br />
and dependent behaviour in the context<br />
of living in a hierarchical, patriarchal<br />
culture.<br />
5. We share with another person and<br />
the Universe all those things inside of us<br />
for which we feel shame and guilt.<br />
6. We affirm and enjoy our strengths,<br />
talents, and creativity, striving not to<br />
hide these qualities to protect other's<br />
egos.<br />
7. We become willing to let go of<br />
shame, guilt, and any behaviour that<br />
keeps us from loving ourSelves and<br />
others.<br />
7. We can ask for help, support, and<br />
guidance and be willing to take<br />
responsibility for ourselves and to<br />
others.<br />
8. We begin a program of living<br />
responsibly for ourselves, for our own<br />
feelings, mistakes, and successes. We<br />
become responsible for our part in<br />
relationship to others.<br />
8. We make a list of people we have<br />
harmed and people who have harmed<br />
us, and take steps to clear out negative<br />
energy by making amends and sharing<br />
our grievances in a respectful way.<br />
9. We express love and gratitude to<br />
others, and increasingly appreciate, the<br />
wonder of life and the blessings we do<br />
have.<br />
10. We continue to trust our reality and<br />
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