personality disorders explained

How would you feel if she wanted to
leave you?
We constantly confirmed with each other that
we would never be separated. Any time I
would panic she would always affirm that "I'll
always be your friend, I'll always be there for
you."
But, you can't make promises like that to a
friend because you don't know where you'll
be or how you'll change. We made these
promises to each other to give each other a
sense of stability.
What steps did you have to take to get back out of this
codependent relationship?
Through mentorship and reading books I learned that our friendship was
unhealthy. About 5 months ago she took an important step and asked to take
time away from our friendship. Since then, we haven't communicated or talked.
It was the best thing we've ever done.
Did you notice a pattern of control in your past relationships?
Yes, it started immediately after high school. High school was a crucial time in my
life and I never felt accepted.
I felt rejected basically for
who I was and felt very
alone. I tried really hard,
and was afraid I wouldn't have
any friends. I wanted to
ensure that I had friends so I
was always trying to be in
control.
In college I became
dependent on friends. But,
this dependency didn't reach
its peak until I met Anna
because at that point I really
wanted a best friend. Anna
was so compliant to go along
with all my suggestions.
There were so many things I
didn't believe about
myself. I loved others but I loved wrongly. My love was misdirected.
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