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RUINED<br />
At some point the leader kicked my feet and said “You” in that<br />
creepy, rough voice. I was instantly alert. I got to my feet and followed<br />
the prodding <strong>of</strong> the gun—up the stairs and into the large<br />
front bedroom that Karen and Lisa shared. He asked me which bed<br />
was mine. When he finally understood that my room was downstairs,<br />
he sprawled out on one <strong>of</strong> the beds as if he were going to<br />
take a break.<br />
“What’s your horoscope sign?” he asked.<br />
“What?” I’d understood him, but I couldn’t believe what he was<br />
asking.<br />
He asked again, more forcefully this time.<br />
I told him: Sagittarius.<br />
His mask was still on, but I could see his lips protruding through<br />
the mouth hole. <strong>The</strong>n he pointed his gun at me and spit out one<br />
word: “Strip.”<br />
I pulled my flannel nightgown over my head and shivered.<br />
“<strong>The</strong> rest,” he said.<br />
I peeled <strong>of</strong>f my underpants.<br />
He made me turn around. <strong>The</strong>n he told me to put my clothes<br />
back on and marched me back downstairs.<br />
w<br />
This is hard to admit. When he made me pirouette for him naked,<br />
I was overwhelmed with shame at the immodesty and utter violation<br />
<strong>of</strong> the situation. Still, I sucked in my stomach. That’s right. I<br />
held in my stomach so I could look more attractive to the man who<br />
might rape me. That’s how thoroughly I had internalized the fact<br />
that a woman should make herself attractive to the eyes <strong>of</strong> a man.<br />
This single fact haunted me for years, which is why I tell it. It’s<br />
a snapshot <strong>of</strong> the forces <strong>of</strong> submissiveness and shame and never-<br />
being-good-enough that shaped me, as they do so many women.<br />
It seems especially ironic that the pressure to look pleasing to<br />
a man was so deeply instilled in us, given that we girls were also<br />
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