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FROM THE EXPERT<br />
ASK DR. RENAE<br />
SISTER ACT<br />
Sibling’s Disruptive Behavior<br />
Worries Teen Brother<br />
Dear Worried 14-year-old Big Brother,<br />
I understand your dilemma. I know this may sound hard<br />
to believe, but it’s possible that your sister is especially<br />
misbehaved when around you. She may be seeking<br />
your attention by taunting and bugging you. Try to give<br />
her positive attention and positive reaction for good<br />
behavior. She currently is more than likely wanting<br />
attention from her “cool older brother,” and has figured<br />
out she can get a reaction from you when she acts out<br />
in a negative way.<br />
Spend time with her and do not give attention or<br />
reaction to her bad behavior. I am a younger sister and<br />
I vividly remember annoying my brother constantly,<br />
because he wouldn’t hang out with me. It wasn’t until<br />
he ignored my negative actions that I formed a more<br />
positive relationship with him. Don’t forget that it could<br />
all be a phase; just as you claim to have had a similar<br />
phase. Give it time and she will mature. Remember,<br />
there is nothing more rewarding than a sibling bond!<br />
- Friend Who Understands<br />
Dear Dr. Renae,<br />
My younger sister is out of control. My<br />
parents do not seem to recognize how<br />
serious it is. They think I am tattling or do<br />
not like her. She behaves badly when they<br />
are around, but much worse when they<br />
are not around. My grandmother could<br />
not handle her this past weekend while<br />
my parents were away and we stayed with<br />
my grandparents. I know that my parents<br />
have been called by the school about her<br />
behavior, too. I had behavior problems<br />
when I was her age but this is much worse.<br />
She is only six years old now and I worry<br />
about what will happen when she becomes<br />
a teenager. How can I get my parents to see<br />
how serious this is?<br />
- Worried 14-year-old Big Brother<br />
Dear Worried 14-year-old Big Brother,<br />
The best policy is to be honest and talk to your<br />
parents about your concerns. Simply have an<br />
uninterrupted conversation with your parents and<br />
they will listen. Give them examples of your sister’s<br />
bad behavior and explain why you are concerned,<br />
especially for the future. I sincerely hope that this<br />
small piece of advice helps.<br />
- A Concerned Friend<br />
Dear Worried 14-year-old Big Brother,<br />
First of all, I must commend you for caring so much<br />
about your little sister. I know lots of teens your age who<br />
don’t have a care in the world for what their little siblings<br />
are doing, so it’s very kind of you to want to help the<br />
situation. Truthfully, though, I’m a little limited in what I<br />
can suggest, if you’ve already spoken to your parents.<br />
Perhaps what you can do is sit down with them again,<br />
for a more serious conversation, and say when you tell<br />
them about your sister’s misbehavior, it’s not meant in a<br />
tattling way. On the contrary, explain to them that you’re<br />
coming from a very mature place, and that you are<br />
genuinely worried about your sister. Be sure to share<br />
examples of things she has done that have made you<br />
worried, and tell your parents why those things have<br />
worried you.<br />
- A Caring Friend<br />
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DECEMBER 2015