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STAGES OF A
RELATIONSHIP
FINDING POSITIVE POINTS IN EVERY
STAGE OF THE RELATIONSHIP AND
GROWING FROM THEM.
By Ane Ayerbe
Who hasn’t dreamt of having
a “fairytale” romance?
Having the perfect
relationship, one full
of passion where no one is ever
sad? If you’re dreaming for this
kind of love… let me wake you
up. You can find love, but it won’t
be anything like a Disney movie.
I’m sorry to disappoint you, but
you need to get your head out
of the clouds and be a bit more
realistic. Every couple is different,
and when it comes to love, there
is no fairytale ending. Everyone
is different; therefore, every
relationship is different. But all
couples go through different stages
in their relationships and Being
aware of where you are as a couple
is the key to moving forward.
I have found that there are 5
different stages most relationships
seem to go through:
1. THE ATTRACTION
STAGE – SUNSHINE AND
HONEYMOON PHASE
“Happy forever”. This is the most radiant
stage of the relationship, the one in which
all emotions are experienced with intensity;
both people are in a state of complete
euphoria. The two lovers are falling for
each other and it seems nothing can go
wrong. Everything is perfect from your
first kiss to the electricity you feel during
it. I would give you two bits of advice here.
First, you should be yourself right from
the beginning. Second, enjoy this stage
while you can, because the next stages
are where things get real—Trust me!
But now, be honest... How much time
have you really taken to get to know each
other? We don’t spend enough energy
trying to know the other person because
everything revolves around the passion
and chemistry. But what happens when
this excitement begins to decrease?
2. THE ACTUAL
BEGINNING – STARTING
TO PLANT YOUR ROOTS
This is when we begin to show
ourselves for who we really are. Now,
we put aside the idea of idealising our
partner, and begin to see that there
are things that make us different. Be
careful and see if you and your partner
have radically different life values.
Has this ever happened to you
before: you start meeting someone
and suddenly after a few months
you ask yourself, “What I’m doing
with this person?” and realise you
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