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CHAPTER 7

Failure Is the Way Forward

I really mean it when I say it: I was fortunate.

I graduated college in 2007, just in time for the financial collapse and

Great Recession, and attempted to enter the worst job market in more than

eighty years.

Around the same time, I found out that the person who was subletting one

of the rooms in my apartment hadn’t paid any rent for three months. When

confronted about this, she cried and then disappeared, leaving my other

roommate and me to cover everything. Goodbye, savings. I spent the next six

months living on a friend’s couch, stringing together odd jobs and trying to

stay in as little debt as possible while looking for a “real job.”

I say I was fortunate because I entered the adult world already a failure. I

started out at rock bottom. That’s basically everybody’s biggest fear later on

in life, when confronted with starting a new business or changing careers or

quitting an awful job, and I got to experience it right out of the gates. Things

could only get better.

So yeah, lucky. When you’re sleeping on a smelly futon and have to

count coins to figure out whether you can afford McDonald’s this week and

you’ve sent out twenty résumés without hearing a single word back, then

starting a blog and a stupid Internet business doesn’t sound like such a scary

idea. If every project I started failed, if every post I wrote went unread, I’d

only be back exactly where I started. So why not try?

Failure itself is a relative concept. If my metric had been to become an

anarcho-communist revolutionary, then my complete failure to make any

money between 2007 and 2008 would have been a raving success. But if, like

most people, my metric had been to simply find a first serious job that could

pay some bills right out of school, I was a dismal failure.

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