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the first step, there should be no attempt at reconciliation in the first place.
Trust is like a china plate. If you break it once, with some care and
attention you can put it back together again. But if you break it again, it splits
into even more pieces and it takes far longer to piece together again. If you
break it more and more times, eventually it shatters to the point where it’s
impossible to restore. There are too many broken pieces, and too much dust.
Freedom Through Commitment
Consumer culture is very good at making us want more, more, more.
Underneath all the hype and marketing is the implication that more is always
better. I bought into this idea for years. Make more money, visit more
countries, have more experiences, be with more women.
But more is not always better. In fact, the opposite is true. We are actually
often happier with less. When we’re overloaded with opportunities and
options, we suffer from what psychologists refer to as the paradox of choice.
Basically, the more options we’re given, the less satisfied we become with
whatever we choose, because we’re aware of all the other options we’re
potentially forfeiting.
So if you have a choice between two places to live and pick one, you’ll
likely feel confident and comfortable that you made the right choice. You’ll
be satisfied with your decision.
But if you have a choice among twenty-eight places to live and pick one,
the paradox of choice says that you’ll likely spend years agonizing, doubting,
and second-guessing yourself, wondering if you really made the “right”
choice, and if you’re truly maximizing your own happiness. And this anxiety,
this desire for certainty and perfection and success, will make you unhappy.
So what do we do? Well, if you’re like I used to be, you avoid choosing
anything at all. You aim to keep your options open as long as possible. You
avoid commitment.
But while investing deeply in one person, one place, one job, one activity
might deny us the breadth of experience we’d like, pursuing a breadth of
experience denies us the opportunity to experience the rewards of depth of
experience. There are some experiences that you can have only when you’ve
lived in the same place for five years, when you’ve been with the same
person for over a decade, when you’ve been working on the same skill or