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people to believe they’re exceptional and to feel good about themselves no
matter what doesn’t lead to a population full of Bill Gateses and Martin
Luther Kings. It leads to a population full of Jimmys.
Jimmy, the delusional start-up founder. Jimmy, who smoked pot every
day and had no real marketable skills other than talking himself up and
believing it. Jimmy, the type of guy who yelled at his business partner for
being “immature,” and then maxed out the company credit card at Le
Bernardin trying to impress some Russian model. Jimmy, who was quickly
running out of aunts and uncles who could loan him more money.
Yes, that confident, high-self-esteem Jimmy. The Jimmy who spent so
much time talking about how good he was that he forgot to, you know,
actually do something.
The problem with the self-esteem movement is that it measured selfesteem
by how positively people felt about themselves. But a true and
accurate measurement of one’s self-worth is how people feel about the
negative aspects of themselves. If a person like Jimmy feels absolutely
fucking great 99.9 percent of the time, despite his life falling apart around
him, then how can that be a valid metric for a successful and happy life?
Jimmy is entitled. That is, he feels as though he deserves good things
without actually earning them. He believes he should be able to be rich
without actually working for it. He believes he should be liked and wellconnected
without actually helping anyone. He believes he should have an
amazing lifestyle without actually sacrificing anything.
People like Jimmy become so fixated on feeling good about themselves
that they manage to delude themselves into believing that they are
accomplishing great things even when they’re not. They believe they’re the
brilliant presenter on stage when actually they’re making a fool of
themselves. They believe they’re the successful start-up founder when, in
fact, they’ve never had a successful venture. They call themselves life
coaches and charge money to help others, even though they’re only twentyfive
years old and haven’t actually accomplished anything substantial in their
lives.
Entitled people exude a delusional degree of self-confidence. This
confidence can be alluring to others, at least for a little while. In some
instances, the entitled person’s delusional level of confidence can become
contagious and help the people around the entitled person feel more confident