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craft for half your lifetime. Now that I’m in my thirties, I can finally
recognize that commitment, in its own way, offers a wealth of opportunity
and experiences that would otherwise never be available to me, no matter
where I went or what I did.
When you’re pursuing a wide breadth of experience, there are
diminishing returns to each new adventure, each new person or thing. When
you’ve never left your home country, the first country you visit inspires a
massive perspective shift, because you have such a narrow experience base to
draw on. But when you’ve been to twenty countries, the twenty-first adds
little. And when you’ve been to fifty, the fifty-first adds even less.
The same goes for material possessions, money, hobbies, jobs, friends,
and romantic/sexual partners—all the lame superficial values people choose
for themselves. The older you get, the more experienced you get, the less
significantly each new experience affects you. The first time I drank at a
party was exciting. The hundredth time was fun. The five hundredth time felt
like a normal weekend. And the thousandth time felt boring and unimportant.
The big story for me personally over the past few years has been my
ability to open myself up to commitment. I’ve chosen to reject all but the
very best people and experiences and values in my life. I shut down all my
business projects and decided to focus on writing full-time. Since then, my
website has become more popular than I’d ever imagined possible. I’ve
committed to one woman for the long haul and, to my surprise, have found
this more rewarding than any of the flings, trysts, and one-night stands I had
in the past. I’ve committed to a single geographic location and doubled down
on the handful of my significant, genuine, healthy friendships.
And what I’ve discovered is something entirely counterintuitive: that
there is a freedom and liberation in commitment. I’ve found increased
opportunity and upside in rejecting alternatives and distractions in favor of
what I’ve chosen to let truly matter to me.
Commitment gives you freedom because you’re no longer distracted by
the unimportant and frivolous. Commitment gives you freedom because it
hones your attention and focus, directing them toward what is most efficient
at making you healthy and happy. Commitment makes decision-making
easier and removes any fear of missing out; knowing that what you already
have is good enough, why would you ever stress about chasing more, more,
more again? Commitment allows you to focus intently on a few highly