The-Subtle-Art-of-Not-Giving-a-F-ck-EnglishPDF-Mark-Manson

don’t know.
Uncertainty removes our judgments of others; it preempts the
unnecessary stereotyping and biases that we otherwise feel when we see
somebody on TV, in the office, or on the street. Uncertainty also relieves us
of our judgment of ourselves. We don’t know if we’re lovable or not; we
don’t know how attractive we are; we don’t know how successful we could
potentially become. The only way to achieve these things is to remain
uncertain of them and be open to finding them out through experience.
Uncertainty is the root of all progress and all growth. As the old adage
goes, the man who believes he knows everything learns nothing. We cannot
learn anything without first not knowing something. The more we admit we
do not know, the more opportunities we gain to learn.
Our values are imperfect and incomplete, and to assume that they are
perfect and complete is to put us in a dangerously dogmatic mindset that
breeds entitlement and avoids responsibility. The only way to solve our
problems is to first admit that our actions and beliefs up to this point have
been wrong and are not working.
This openness to being wrong must exist for any real change or growth to
take place.
Before we can look at our values and prioritizations and change them into
better, healthier ones, we must first become uncertain of our current values.
We must intellectually strip them away, see their faults and biases, see how
they don’t fit in with much of the rest of the world, to stare our own
ignorance in the face and concede, because our own ignorance is greater than
us all.
Manson’s Law of Avoidance
Chances are you’ve heard some form of Parkinson’s law: “Work expands so
as to fill up the time available for its completion.”
You’ve also undoubtedly heard of Murphy’s law: “Whatever can go
wrong will go wrong.”
Well, next time you’re at a swanky cocktail party and you want to
impress somebody, try dropping Manson’s law of avoidance on them:
The more something threatens your identity, the more you will