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emotional highs that you’ve been sustaining yourself on for years. Like a
junkie giving up the needle, you’re going to go through withdrawal when you
start giving these things up. But you’ll come out the other side so much
better.
How to Be a Little Less Certain of Yourself
Questioning ourselves and doubting our own thoughts and beliefs is one of
the hardest skills to develop. But it can be done. Here are some questions that
will help you breed a little more uncertainty in your life.
Question #1: What if I’m wrong?
A friend of mine recently got engaged to be married. The guy who
proposed to her is pretty solid. He doesn’t drink. He doesn’t hit her or
mistreat her. He’s friendly and has a good job.
But since the engagement, my friend’s brother has been admonishing her
nonstop about her immature life choices, warning her that she’s going to hurt
herself with this guy, that she’s making a mistake, that she’s being
irresponsible. And whenever my friend asks her brother, “What is your
problem? Why does this bother you so much?” he acts as though there is no
problem, that nothing about the engagement bothers him, that he’s just trying
to be helpful and look out for his little sister.
But it’s clear that something does bother him. Perhaps it’s his own
insecurities about getting married. Perhaps it’s a sibling rivalry thing. Perhaps
it’s jealousy. Perhaps he’s just so caught up in his own victimhood that he
doesn’t know how to show happiness for others without trying to make them
feel miserable first.
As a general rule, we’re all the world’s worst observers of ourselves.
When we’re angry, or jealous, or upset, we’re oftentimes the last ones to
figure it out. And the only way to figure it out is to put cracks in our armor of
certainty by consistently questioning how wrong we might be about
ourselves.
“Am I jealous—and if I am, then why?” “Am I angry?” “Is she right, and
I’m just protecting my ego?”
Questions like these need to become a mental habit. In many cases, the
simple act of asking ourselves such questions generates the humility and