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that it’s all right to die.

This willing and even exuberant interfacing with one’s own mortality has

ancient roots. The Stoics of ancient Greece and Rome implored people to

keep death in mind at all times, in order to appreciate life more and remain

humble in the face of its adversities. In various forms of Buddhism, the

practice of meditation is often taught as a means of preparing oneself for

death while still remaining alive. Dissolving one’s ego into an expansive

nothingness—achieving the enlightened state of nirvana—is seen as a trial

run of letting oneself cross to the other side. Even Mark Twain, that hairy

goofball who came in and left on Halley’s Comet, said, “The fear of death

follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any

time.”

Back on the cliff, I bend down, slightly leaning back. I put my hands on the

ground behind me and gently lower myself onto my butt. I then gradually

slide one leg over the edge of the cliff. There’s a small rock jutting out of the

cliff side. I rest my foot on it. Then I slide my other foot off the edge and put

it on the same small rock. I sit there a moment, leaning back on my palms,

wind ruffling my hair. The anxiety is bearable now, as long as I stay focused

on the horizon.

Then I sit up straight and look down the cliff again. Fear shoots back up

through my spine, electrifying my limbs and laser-focusing my mind on the

exact coordinates of every inch of my body. The fear is stifling at times. But

each time it stifles me, I empty my thoughts, focus my attention on the

bottom of the cliff below me, force myself to gaze at my potential doom, and

then to simply acknowledge its existence.

I was now sitting on the edge of the world, at the southern-most tip of

hope, the gateway to the east. The feeling was exhilarating. I can feel the

adrenaline pumping through my body. Being so still, so conscious, never felt

so thrilling. I listen to the wind and watch the ocean and look out upon the

ends of the earth—and then I laugh with the light, all that it touches being

good.

Confronting the reality of our own mortality is important because it

obliterates all the crappy, fragile, superficial values in life. While most people

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