The Man God Has For You by Stephan Labossiere (1)

are you doing?”
Yes this is confusing, but guess what?
An inconsistent action is a consistent answer …
And the answer is, he is not serious. He’s not ready or willing to be the
man you need.
As we discussed in Chapter 2, there’s a difference between the person
who makes a real effort but makes mistakes at times, and the person who
has a recurring issue. When it’s continuous, that’s a problem. Does he
show you effort? What are his words and do they line up with is actions?
Even though actions speak louder than words, in this case, you can get
confused. Oftentimes, his actions may say he wants to be in your life, or
wants you as his girl, but his words say no.
The actions and words must be aligned.
When the actions and words don’t line up, there’s a problem. A lie is
being told somewhere, or an issue is not being addressed. One way or
another, it needs to be investigated and should not be ignored. When he
says you’re not his girl, he doesn’t see you as his girlfriend, doesn’t want a
girlfriend then does the opposite the minute you assume he’s supposed to
be with you, he’ll come back and say, I told you I didn’t want a girlfriend.
An inconsistent action is a consistent answer.
The answer is, he’s not serious. He’s not ready to be what you need
because if he was, then the consistency would be clear. He’d put in the
effort, ensure his words and actions lined up, and everything would make
sense. All this confusion he creates is because he’s either playing a game
or there’s an issue he hasn’t addressed. Either way, it’s something you
should not entertain.
It’s even more important for you to address the issue first because it
can easily be a matter of miscommunication or misunderstanding. In the
same instance, I’m aware that when you try to confront the issue he may
dance around it, flip the script to make it about you, what you didn’t do, or
what you did wrong. Make claims that you’re questioning and pressuring
him, which backs you into a corner and is ultimately a distraction from the
fact he STILL didn’t answer your question. He gave you no clarity; the
issue is still an unsolved mystery.
This all leads to the same conclusion ⎯ he’s not serious. He isn’t ready
to be in a real genuine relationship and there’s no need to entertain it any