The Man God Has For You by Stephan Labossiere (1)

As popular as it is and as comforting as it may be, simply telling God
to take this person away and let it be done is the wrong request.
Here’s why, you ask God to remove this person if they aren’t for you
then go into a wait and see mode, observing the situation, waiting to see
what happens next. You may see nothing wrong with it, believing you’re
allowing things to happen in “God’s time”; however, when you take a wait
and see approach while you’re dating or getting to know someone, you
hold back. You don’t show much interest, take initiative, make a mutual
effort to grow and nurture the relationship, or discover if there’s a deep
and genuine connection.
So now, your wall is up because that’s essentially what you do when
you hold back. You restrict your ability to love and receive love, stunt the
growth and kill the potential of that relationship. While you’re thinking
this man disappeared or fell back from your life because God removed
him, more than likely it’s because you pushed him away. It’s easier for a
man to chase lust, than it is for him to chase love.
What do I mean by that?
When we lust after someone, those reservations, the resistance, the
walls aren’t going to faze that man much. Why? He’s locked in on the
desire, his selfishness to fulfill whatever conquest he has in mind. He has a
goal he’s trying to achieve and your resistance won’t stop that. However,
when he is truly into you and real feelings are involved, now your
resistance gives him pause. It makes him scared, feel insecure, and
question if you’re really into him.
As much as you may not want to believe it, men get played too. They
may not get played as much as women, but way more than you realize. In
light of this, a lot of men approach things cautiously and when you start to
hold back, you’ve thrown up a red flag. Eventually, he’ll walk away
because he doesn’t want to deal with it, or it hurts too much to try to push
pass it.
This isn’t to say the man wasn’t removed based on your request to
God, or that every man who’s walked away was a result of being pushed
away. Nor does the man's unwillingness to let you go mean he is the man
for you. I just want you to understand that this approach of asking God to
remove certain men from your life can lead you to pushing away the man
who you can potentially have a great relationship with. Again, if he has
genuine interest, he’s more sensitive to what is occurring in the situation.