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WELLBEING & RESILIENCE<br />
R U Ok? U R not alone<br />
and U R not a robot…<br />
ZOE LEWIS, CHAIR, WELLBEING & RESILIENCE COMMITTEE<br />
This year on “R U Ok? Day” (9<br />
<strong>September</strong>) you might like to consider<br />
that the answer to this question is not a<br />
simple “yes” or “no”. Nor is the answer<br />
the same across time.<br />
Some days the words of an angry or<br />
aggressive client are like water off a duck’s<br />
back. Other days they feel like quicksand<br />
in which we become stuck.<br />
Working with people who are facing<br />
some of the biggest challenges of their<br />
lives is a privilege. But we must also<br />
recognise that it is a burden too. It can<br />
drain you, leave you worried about the<br />
welfare of your client, even worried about<br />
your own safety when dealing with that<br />
person.<br />
We must have individual and workplace<br />
strategies for prevention and protection<br />
as well as mechanisms which kick in when<br />
things R not ok.<br />
We know this is important because<br />
nearly 40% of us recently reported that<br />
working in the legal profession has a<br />
negative impact on our mental wellbeing<br />
and the same percentage reported feeling<br />
unable to cope at work within the last year. 1<br />
Why might the answer be “no”?<br />
It is certainly true that one client<br />
may be more distressed or demanding<br />
than another. And some content is more<br />
confronting than average. But most often<br />
I find that if I am struggling to manage<br />
something at work, it is more about other<br />
circumstances.<br />
Did I sleep poorly the night<br />
before? Had I already dealt with several<br />
challenging situations that day that left my<br />
reserves low? Had I been physically unwell<br />
lately and so feeling more fragile? Were<br />
there stressors at home?<br />
(Side note: The reality is that 70% of<br />
us identify non-work factors which have a<br />
significant impact on our mental wellbeing<br />
– family and caring responsibilities top the<br />
list followed by perfectionist personality<br />
traits and financial stress.)<br />
And of course, things can get into a bit<br />
of a vicious cycle: 75% of us experienced<br />
disrupted sleep due to work during the<br />
last year and poor sleep can reduce our<br />
resilience especially if it is a chronic issue.<br />
There is no shame in our humanness.<br />
Rather, it is what enables us to connect<br />
with our clients and colleagues. But until<br />
we can admit to each other that today is<br />
not an ok day, we are left to struggle on<br />
our own.<br />
If someone asks you, “R U Ok?”<br />
Remember, U R not a robot. This isn’t<br />
a “computer says no” auto-pilot moment.<br />
Sometimes the answer to the question<br />
is a resounding “no”. When things<br />
continue to be not ok day after day, and<br />
when we feel alone and as though we<br />
are a burden for not being ok… Well,<br />
that is when we are most at risk of doing<br />
something we cannot bounce back from.<br />
And this is a reality we must get better<br />
at talking about since we know that each<br />
day eight Australians die by suicide 2 . Yes,<br />
that is more than double the road toll.<br />
Research suggests that lawyers are<br />
at even higher risk than the general<br />
population. So, if you’re having a hard<br />
time U R certainly not alone.<br />
In the recent Law Society Wellbeing<br />
Survey, 17 of our peers admitted to having<br />
suicidal thoughts and nearly half admitted<br />
to having negative or depressed thoughts.<br />
If U R not OK today…<br />
• Can you find a colleague, family<br />
member or friend to talk to?<br />
• Are there some self-care activities you<br />
could step up like getting an early night<br />
or making time for a lunchtime walk?<br />
(75% of us picked exercise as one of<br />
our most effective coping strategies)<br />
• Could you delegate or reschedule some<br />
of your commitments to cut yourself<br />
some slack?<br />
If U R not OK, and that feeling has<br />
been lingering, it might be time to contact<br />
one of the many support services available<br />
to you such as:<br />
• Law Care – free and confidential<br />
counselling available through the Law<br />
Society<br />
• Your GP or psychologist<br />
• Your Employee Assistance Program (if<br />
you have one)<br />
• Lifeline (13 11 14) or Beyond Blue<br />
• The Suicide Call-back Service<br />
We must learn that this doesn’t make<br />
us weak. It doesn’t make us incapable of<br />
being good lawyers. It just means we are<br />
humans and not robots.<br />
Unfortunately, these ideas persist.<br />
A huge number of survey respondents<br />
reported varying concerns they would<br />
have about disclosing any struggles to their<br />
employer ranging from not being believed<br />
through to fear of it negatively impacting<br />
upon their career.<br />
So maybe this year, when we ask<br />
each other “R U Ok?” we can start a<br />
bigger conversation, one that continues<br />
throughout the year as life takes us on its<br />
inevitable ups and downs.<br />
If you are interested in hosting an<br />
event at your work, or want to learn more<br />
about having R U Ok? Day conversations,<br />
you can check out the R U Ok? Day<br />
website.<br />
Endnotes<br />
1 Law Society of South Australia Individual<br />
Lawyer Wellbeing Survey <strong>2021</strong>.<br />
2 https://www.health.gov.au/health-topics/<br />
mental-health-and-suicide-prevention/suicide-inaustralia<br />
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