V21 N1

The Answer Lady invites inquiries from
gentle readers on all manner of relationship
quandaries, matters of the
heart and ethics. If you’d like to send
a query, write to info@exitzero.us. Or,
simply sit back, enjoy a cup of coffee and contemplate
the wisdom herein.
Dear Answer Lady
The love of my life has rejected me. I
bought an engagement ring from Victorious
and made reservations at the Washington
Inn for Valentine’s Day. When I told her about
dinner, she said she “had other plans.” Then
silence for over a week. When I insisted she
tell me what I’ve done wrong, she said, “I want
to date you but I’m afraid you won’t like me so
it’s better we end it now.” What should I do?
It’s not the first time she’s invited me into her
life and then slammed the door. Do you think
she’ll change her mind? — Rejected
Dear Rejected
It ain’t you. It’s her. It is important you
realize that. No matter what hot/cold signals
she sends, you must decide to not be a doormat
The Answer Lady
Wise answers to perplexing questions
for her whims. And no, she is not going to
change her mind. If she does, don’t allow her to
control your emotions. Look for the qualities
you admired in her in someone who is worthy
of your devotion and, for goodness’ sake, thank
your stars that this happened now and not six
months after you said, “I do.” As for Valentine’s
Day, do not sit at home and mope. Take a good
friend to dinner. See about exchanging the
ring for a watch to remind you that life is short
and we shouldn’t waste it on the ambivalent.
Dear Answer Lady
I’m a foodie but my fiancé, not so much. I’ve
been trying to introduce her to some foods out
of her comfort zone and she’s been receptive.
She is a connoisseur of a top-notch hamburger
and anything Italian which I love about her. I
want to take her to one of Cape May’s swankier
restaurants for Valentine’s Day, but I’m afraid
she won’t like my choice. Should I ask her? I
wanted it to be a surprise, but I also don’t want
her to be uncomfortable. — Anxious
Dear Anxious
Why on earth would you want to take her
to some place she won’t like? And why are you
hesitating in asking her? The Answer Lady is
certain she wants you to be happy, too. The
discussion will elicit a compromise. There
are many choices in Cape May that offer good
food, a nice ambience and a fun time. Pier
House, Lucky Bones, Tisha’s and the recently
opened Grana are possibilities. If you want to
surprise her, show up with a beautiful bouquet
of flowers from Cape Winds florist.
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