HIM Magazine No.15 (English)

MAR
23
Fetisch ∙ Lifestyle
www.him-magazine.de
Darklands 2023
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In
this
issue
04
LOOK FOR THE DICK!
Our longing for cocks
10
EXPERIENCE DARKROOM
The safe space full of possibilities
16 20
DARKLANDS 2023
Fetish yourself, Boy!
Master of eroticism:
Michael
Woodcock breaks
new ground
24 30 36
FETISH EXTREME
700 strokes full of pure lust
CHEMSEX
The connection
between drugs,
sex and gay guys
From meat
renunciation to
fetish lust

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The eternal
search for a
DICK
Why is there such a
fascination with a male
cock? Why do we desire it,
more than anything else in
the world? Why is it that all
our seeking, all our longing,
all our devotion is always
directed towards having a
magnificent cock in front
of us or feeling pleasure
with our own magnificent
specimen?
This is an ode, a hymn to the male cock, a
completely subjective feeling about this
piece of meat as it lies warm in our hands.
About how it feels to stroke its skin, to
feel the thick veins pumping blood up
to the bulging tip of the glans, until the
foreskin slowly pushes back, finally presenting
the kingdom of our desires in all
its grandeur and perfection. But perhaps
we should start somewhere else entirely,
because as is so often the case, a large part
of the true pleasure, of these fireworks in
our heads, can escape us if we sex-hungry,
cock-hungry, skip the first passages all too
quickly. Sometimes, of course, we need
raw, wild desire that can be over in just a
few minutes. But in the depths of passion,
in that area of our desire and our sensation,
which lets us completely disappear
from this world for a time, we come so
certainly not.

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And isn‘t that actually the most beautiful thing about everything?
This loss of control, sometimes only for small moments in
everyday life, in the subway, on the bus, while shopping, in the
middle of the street? It comes over us unexpectedly, takes hold of
us, and we let it happen again every time, as if we were suffering
from Stockholm syndrome. But we like being victims, surrendering
to the kidnappers, letting them do whatever they want to
do with us. In a clocked world, in which second hands indicate
the goose step of mankind, this loss of control in our head, this
disappearance towards our pure animal self is the greatest form
of freedom. For a moment, that cock appears before our gaze
once again, the cock of the strange man. We trace its contours in
our minds, how the rim of the glans gently stands out before it
merges into the shaft.
We are hunters. Raiders of the Lost Ark. Hunters of the cock.
And we like to hunt in that urban wilderness of the big city,
when men look for a place close to each other in the subway,
when legs spread and bulges lecherously emerge from tight
jeans. When we glide over the shapes of a pair of pants with a
fleeting glance, and the guy in the supermarket is already undressing
in our mind‘s eye, kneeling greedily, ready to pray, just
like the boys in the churches do. Our cross of worship is just as
hard, only it pulsates and lives, and it doesn‘t need nails to float
in the air either. Just a little attention and the most natural thing
in the world begins, an erection. At the same time a miracle and
a marvel, thousands of nerves throbbing in fractions of seconds
sending an express train from our brain to our bulging balls,
back and forth all the time, traveling all the time, loaded with
our lust and desire, wrapped in thirsty looks, first touches and
for the time being still tender waves of ecstasy. We know what
will follow and yet each time it is new, each time different, each
time very individual and very special. One wave chases the next,
they trump each other, grow together in our head, fill us completely,
until the fire of desire finally burns at our own dick tip and
the flesh twitches animalistically, beyond our control.

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Only a slight twitch, a
movement resulting from
the stranger‘s careless
step, lets us sink further
into the darkness of our
imagination, in which we
hide from that reality which
has as little to do with our
throbbing heart as apples
have to do with killer
whales.

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Then, another time, when we actually
approach a cock and its owner, our
journey can continue. We run our fingers
along the bump that appears in his crotch.
Tentatively at first, almost like an uninitiated
virgin, then we grip tighter. Feel the
weight, feel the automatic counter-movement
of his piston nestling in our palm,
wanting to be taken and touched. And
then, once again, the miracle of nature
happens, the miracle of growing. It can be
both of supreme pleasure to simply feel,
through the fabric of his pants, the life
being pumped into the shaft with every
heartbeat, or to witness, face to face, so
to speak, quite directly, how this sexual
organ swells a few centimeters before our
eyes only to become thicker, plumper and
firmer by the second. True connoisseurs
understand why a flaccid cock is so wonderful
- it doesn‘t offer any ready answers
yet, only possibilities, limitless possibilities.
There is hardly a better feeling than to feel
another man‘s lust growing, before our
eyes, in our hands, with the help of our
hungry tongues or in a firm lustful ass.
A cock may be enjoyed with
all our senses.
We can bury our nose deep into it and
with every breath disappear deeper and
deeper into these clouds of scent of pure
masculinity. We can taste him, slowly
wandering up with our tongues to the
moist tip - where else can we absorb the
animalistic beast in a man better than
here? We feel the weight of this male
monster, how it becomes heavier and
heavier, the skin tightens more and more,
leaving less and less room for speculation.
Our eyes can become witnesses of this
birth, this origin of all life, all our lust, all
that lets us be really human. When the
bulging cock along with its full testicles
slaps against our face for the first time, we
can hear how much power lives inside it.
And we want more. Punishment, caress,
chastisement or pure lack of will - a stiff
cock can be everything at the same time
and much more.
The penetration inside us then ignites a
very special fire in both men, that everlasting
glow that has been with us since
the first lightning strike on earth and has
never completely faded away.

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We feel how the cock gradually fills the
space inside us, explores and enlivens our
mouth or our ass, more than that, creates
new space where none was before. It
opens secret gates to a magnificent hall inside
ourselves, a whole castle of pleasure,
corridors and corridors as different as our
desires; winding paths to explore as well
as wide paths that nevertheless want to
be trodden and experienced anew every
time. This animal lust is the key within us
to true happiness, so that a man‘s cock can
become our savior in need. A barque in
the night that carries us as much through
the hellfires of the day as through the darkness
of the deepest passion. Not only are
we safe here, we know the reward that
awaits us. Every time. Pure life as it flows
out through him, flows or is eruptively
flung out, as if this cock wanted to repopulate
the whole world with its seed. He
could. So much magic, so much magic is
in him. So much power. All the life flows
into us, unites with our origin and we...
we truly become one. With us. With the
other man and his cock. With the animal
origin of our existence. Your male cock is
able to do all that - it is the true redeemer,
the true creator, the greatest pleasure and
constant desire of our life. Everything else
is only accessories. Decorations in our life.
And we open our eyes drunk with love,
taste, feel, hear, gasp, touch, heartbeat in
our head, everything at the same time,
everything unreal, everything more real
than ever before, all colors shine, we glow
within us, everything sinks into us, hurricanes
in the smallest space, gigantic land
masses shift and we go back to the resting
starting point. Then we smile with spermstained
lips and look out for the next cock.
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Lifestyle 10
Safe place, boundless lust
or last refuge?
IN THE
DARK
Opinions differ on the word
“darkroom” - reactions among
friends could hardly be more
different. For some, most of
whom have never visited such a
place of darkness until now, the
darkroom is a mixture of wicked
atrium of hell on the direct way
to all the venereal diseases of
the world coupled with lustful
fantasies that flash before their
inner eye for a split second. But
they do not allow themselves to
give in to them. If one inquires
more concretely, a greedy
curiosity often hides behind it,
what really happens in the dark
rooms among all the strange men.
For others, it is a place beyond
social boundaries and norms,
where we are thrown back on our
animalistic lust and can forget
everything else for a moment, the
everyday life, the stress, all the
worries, needs and fears.
Opinions differ on the word “darkroom”
- reactions among friends could hardly
be more different. For some, most of
whom have never visited such a place
of darkness until now, the darkroom is a
mixture of wicked atrium of hell on the
direct way to all the venereal diseases of
the world coupled with lustful fantasies
that flash before their inner eye for a split
second. But they do not allow themselves
to give in to them. If one inquires more
concretely, a greedy curiosity often hides
behind it, what really happens in the dark
rooms among all the strange men. For others,
it is a place beyond social boundaries
and norms, where we are thrown back on
our animalistic lust and can forget everything
else for a moment, the everyday life,
the stress, all the worries, needs and fears.
Still others sense many dangers in the
darkroom, as director Rosa von Praunheim,
for example, also addressed in his
eponymous film drama when he tells
of the true case that shook the Berlin
gay community in 2012. At that time, a
gay man administered knockout drops
to other guys, including in darkrooms -
three men died as a result. And indeed, a
darkroom can also pose a certain danger,
because neither are the other men known
to you, nor do you know what exactly
awaits you in the dark. But why does the
dark room nevertheless not lose its fascination
until today?

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If you don‘t want to completely brush aside
the issue of your own safety, you can
take certain precautions - for example,
never go alone into a darkroom or simply
not take any substances that are offered to
you there in the semi-darkness. Of course,
this still won‘t protect you from one STI
or another, so the most you can do is take
certain precautions, for example with
preventive measures such as PrEP. There
is no such thing as 100 percent safety,
but neither is there any such thing if you
arrange to have sex within your own four
walls and sterilize the fitted sheet beforehand.
Anyone who is sexually active
always exposes themselves to a certain
degree of risk.
However, one question is which sexual
practices are performed in the darkroom.
There are, of course, guys who lie in a
sling and let everything happen to them,
come who or what may. One question,
however, is the degree of darkness itself
- there are darkrooms that allow the eyes
to explore the essentials, especially when
constructions like a sex swing or other
toys are on site - this requires at least a
certain basic light, preferably in shades
of blue or red. However, if we talk about
the “real” darkrooms, those ones, in which
we actually see almost nothing at all, the
way men have sex with each other also
changes immediately. Of course, there are
men who let other guys take them while
leaning against the wall, but by far the
most common activities are blowjobs and
mutual exploration and masturbation.
Both sex variants where the risk for STDs
decreases, although of course it does not
disappear completely.
But for some, it is precisely this danger
that constitutes a further attraction - to
the animalistic and rudimentary recollection
of flesh, cock, desire, lust and
sex, there joins like an invisible veil a fog
of danger, which as a very special kick
drives the sexual experience and ecstasy
further and leads us into partly undreamed-of
regions of our selves. Again, and
again it also happens that in those rooms
one meets ignorantly men who beyond
this place of darkness would say of themselves
that they are strictly heterosexual.
Why do they still find their way into the
darkroom, knowing that other men are
waiting for them there? The darkroom
functions here as a place of limbo, beyond
reality, beyond the morality that many
have imposed on themselves or have
had imposed on them. A refuge between
anonymity and sexual security.

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Here, pure animalistic lust is the sole
ruler of the dark realm, all the civilized
etiquette we have thrown on ourselves
falls away - this has at least as appealing
an effect on gays as it does on supposedly
consistently heterosexual men.
Moreover, there is no need to explain oneself
at all. You‘re here, you get your dick
out, and the journey begins. No one has to
explain themselves and answer another
person‘s questions or even try to convince
themselves that they‘re not gay, even
though they‘re just holding another man‘s
hard piston in their hand and playing
with his stiff nipples. In the most primal
sense, this is nothing less than absolute
freedom - only lust sets the scene, there
are no limits and no prohibitions beyond
your own imagination. If something
doesn‘t work for you, you turn away, back
into the darkness, looking for new bodies.
Heterosexual men don‘t have to explain
themselves, not to themselves, but also
not to others. Maybe it‘s like that mystical
place in the middle of the American
desert, Las Vegas, that city about which
they say what happens there stays there -
darkrooms function in a very similar way.
“
In the darkroom I became a voyeur, a voyeur of sounds. I
love how the moans, murmurs and soft, whispered words
travel through the room. A command like “Suck my dick, you
bitch!“ spreads in circles further and further and strange
men a few meters away perceive the words as their very
own invitation, continue in turn with the man at their
side. Here we are all just meat and horniness, we fire each
other with our noises, words and animalistic sounds. When
one of the guys approaches his own climax, he shouts it
out joyfully, there is no stopping, no limits, no awkward
moment. We are performers in our own porno, each driving
his very own movie in his head. There is no director, no rules,
everything is allowed, everything increases more and more
in the intoxication of the senses beyond our eyes. Once fully
engaged in it, you‘ll find it hard not to smile at the supposedly
normal world beyond these narrow walls.
Daniel (35)
The darkroom usually always holds
another promise as well - the unconditional
satisfaction of one‘s own lust. Neither
do heterosexual guys have to invite their
dream girl to dinner a few times before
the first form of intimacy is allowed to
emerge, nor do gay guys require long
speeches, endless chat conversations and
sometimes grueling detailed questions in
gay dating apps before maybe, maybe not,
a meeting in real life can take place. The
darkroom is an infinitely honest space because
the lights are turned down, and in
the process, in the midst of darkness, the
cone of interest is focused only on pure
lust, only on the simplest and best form of
satisfaction. Here, everyone becomes an
equal object of lust, whether old or young,
whether slim or fat, whether disabled or
not, whether wearing glasses or beard,
whether Asian or European, whether
black or white, whether circumcised or
not...Goodbye Body-Shaming, Welcome
Safe Space. Come, dear friend, be as you

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are and with your step into the darkness
also shed any stigma that constricts and
oppresses you beyond these walls.
Another aspect to this special pleasure
experience is the simple fact that we are
largely deprived of one of our senses, the
eyes. What many relationship counselors
almost always advise as a special form
of reacquaintance between couples - the
slow exploration of the other person‘s
body with the help of blindfolds - almost
always and inevitably takes place in a
darkroom. Sometimes fast and impetuous,
then again slow and curious. Fingertips
explore bodies, travel over bulges, slide
into warm valleys, grab, grasp, feel and
grope.
☛
THE HIM DARKROOM MOVIE TIP:
SEQUIN IN A BLUE
ROOM
16-year-old Sequin loves anonymous
sex and becomes increasingly
addicted to the Blue Room, a lustful
darkroom full of desire, until he falls
under the spell of a beguiling stranger.
More at salzgeber.de
“
I was in Amsterdam for the first time and had heard
about this mysterious darkroom. Twisted and hidden
between the ends of two streets beyond the canals,
it took a while to find the little bar. Inside, a daddy in
a leather outfit stood behind the counter, otherwise
the bar was seemingly empty. He smiled and with
a nod of his head pointed to a wooden staircase
leading down to the basement. With soft knees, I
stepped down and a new world revealed itself
to me. Small and larger corridors, arranged in
squares, display areas that disappeared into
the darkness, cubicles that allowed a brief
glimpse of stiff cocks and lustful pairs of
eyes in the gloom. A murmur rippled from
one end of the darkness to the other. My
cock immediately became rock hard
and with each step further and deeper
down this rabbit hole, I stripped away
everything that had ever weighed
me down and gripped me internally.
Then I let myself fall completely into
this intoxication of lust and sex.
Since then, I‘ve known there‘s
reality out there and then
there‘s the real world, hidden
in dark basements next to
canals where the water
shimmers just as darkly
with lust.
Mike (41)

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“
Scantily clad only in a towel, I stepped outside the door - a
steam sauna and a darkroom at the same time. Off to the
side, two meters away, two men sat on plastic chairs and
eyed lecherously who all stepped through the glass door.
I mustered up all my courage, stripped off the towel and
went inside. For the first few seconds I saw nothing and a
low murmur sounded through my ears. Then, with time, my
eyes got used to the darkness, I could sparsely perceive the
first contours and moving shadows. Courageously, I took a
few steps inside, while it became darker and darker around
me. The steam clouded my senses, then I already felt the first
hands on my body. A few fingers grazed my full balls, a few
others played with the tip of my glans, making my cock get
harder and harder. A third hand caressed my ass cheeks,
playing with the curves that transitioned to my back, while
another hand played and squeezed harder and harder on
my nipples. Up until this point I had not been one for pain
or unknown dates, but here it was as if everything I used to
be was suddenly forgotten. It was not long before I squirted
a large portion of cum for the first time in the middle of the
dark room. The idea that my cum somewhere abruptly just
slapped on other guys‘ bodies amplified the rush in my head
immeasurably, while the hands didn‘t stop playing with me.
Markus (24)
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Tasting and hearing the lust and masculinity
of an equally lustful counterpart. The
boundlessness of the dark allows for an
infinite horizon that we cannot see, but
can feel within us. The darkroom creates
a space - within ourselves. Thrown back
to the animal lust, which sometimes
hungry like a predator on the prowl at
night in a hurry or other times wants to
be enjoyed with a lot of peace and time.
And this sexual pleasure does not end in
togetherness either, the darkness creates
enough space for all men to find each other,
explore each other, hands, all over the
skin. While our fingers glide over other
people‘s bodies, holding, pressing, jerking
and playing, countless other fingers wander
lustfully over us and from second to
second more and more men merge with
each other. A moan rises, hovers for a moment
like a curious smokescreen over the
scenery and then lays very gently over all
the sweating and panting bodies that play
naked with their lust, become one, are
one, forget everything, feel everything,
know everything - and perhaps only in
this way come closest to what we so carelessly
call infinity. Beyond time, beyond
all norms and rules. Free.
The image of the darkroom, meanwhile,
will certainly always remain a wicked
one, and maybe that‘s just as well - where
would we end up if everyone understood
where they experience absolute freedom
in their minds, a boundless sexual wave
of pleasure? So, you‘d better stay away,
dear ignorant people, condemn us and
keep turning up your noses. For some the
boundless freedom is simply not made,
some need the narrow walls of their
world, in order not to have to feel truly.
For all those who are interested, meanwhile,
be welcome, friends, and get ready
for a universe in which you can experience
a journey on the billions of electrical
pathways of your own synapses in the
brain that will take you all 13.8 billion
years back to the Big Bang. (ms)
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ARKLANDS
festival opens its doors
IN THE
KINGDOM
OF FETISH
This month, Christmas, Easter
and your own birthday
will once again coincide in
one week for all fetish fans
from all over the world, namely
when the European fetish
festival DARKLANDS
opens its doors in Antwerp.
In many ways, the meeting
of fetish enthusiasts in Belgium
is unique, but above
all, the warm welcome culture
immediately appeals to
you - there is enough room
here for every fetish, for all
people and their different
desires. There are no prejudices,
DARKLANDS is a
gigantic safe space for all
people who are interested
or enjoy fetish. Of course,
HIM MAGAZINE will also
be there on site. Beforehand,
Jacques Smet from the
DARKLANDS organizing
team told us a little more
about this special festival.
Would you like to tell our readers a little bit
about the history of DARKLANDS?
Our festival has been around since 2011, it actually
started very small at the Leather Pride
Festival in Belgium and then grew more and
more every year. Since 2016 our festival is
called DARKLANDS and now every year
around 15,000 people from over 35 countries
worldwide visit our festival.
In your really cool trailer online, you declare
yourselves and the visitors to be the
last rebels in the galaxy. What makes you
rebels?
We are definitely rebels! Why? Simply
because we want to normalize the fetish. We
want to show and enforce in the gay community
but also in society and the cultural scene
in general that fetish is simply normal in the
best sense. In addition, we want to show that
fetish is more diverse and varied than many
people probably believe. It's really important
to get this knowledge out into the world.
There are no boundaries at
DARKLANDS. What kind
of attitude should the
DARKLANDS guests
come with?
As you rightly say,
there are no limits
with us. The most
important thing
is mutual respect.
We ask all our visitors
to respect each
other. If you come
to us as a guest with
this attitude, you will
definitely have the
best time of your life!

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“
It’s no surprise that DARKLANDS is
the annual highlight of our fetish life.
We’re proud of what DARKLANDS
has achieved since it first began. It’s not
just about partying – the social side is
equally important. And the fact that it
attracts people from all over the world
makes it very interesting to be there.
Many fetishes are still fighting for diversity
and inclusivity. DARKLANDS
recognized this early and has adopted
many subcultures into its programm.
Mr. Leather International & Mr. Leather
Europe Gael & Andy
“
For me, DARKLANDS is the event
where I improved and found my
confidence for life in the international
fetish family. Ever since I first went to
DARKLANDS, I’ve noticed that this
event unites fetish people from all over
the world. Personally, I’ve never been a
heavy darkroom visitor, but I’ve been
able to express my pup play on DAR-
KLANDS both sexually and non-sexually,
and I think that’s an issue of our
time. It’s your fetish and you should be
proud of it. DARKLANDS helps a lot of
people to develop this self-confidence,
because you suddenly walk through the
public in gear because it seems normal
for everyone. Everyone can be as they
want to be and I think that’s something
we have to relearn, especially after
the Corona Pandemic. DARKLANDS
can help us with this! Tolerance and
acceptance should no longer be hollow
phrases. We Are Fetish!
Puppy Europe 2022 Thaly
“
DARKLANDS is a little bit of a magical
place; because it’s pretty much the
Disneyland of kink. Whenever people
ask me about it, I make sure to encourage
them to attend, and whether it’s your
first ever kink event or your 100th, it’s
worth visiting. Community is the most
important part to me. I’ve found a whole
queer family because of attending
and competing at DARKLANDS.
Mr. Superhero Fetish Europe 2022
Gareth

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We really strongly believe in this. We just
celebrate love and so we are really just
surrounded by love. We are very diverse
and respect all types of fetishes, from
leather to rubber to pups to bondage to
skins and much more. After all, there are
so many of them! To our visitors I would
advise: Just be yourself! Be open to new
experiences and accept all the different
impressions you can experience. In all
these years our guests have always been
inspired by this, that's why we simply
never needed security, there were never
any incidents or fights between our
visitors.
Many fetishes are still struggling for
diversity and inclusivity. DARKLANDS
brings all fetishes together in one big
event. You also say that you have come a
long way, but there is still a lot to do.
Yes, there really is still some work to do!
We experience that we always have to be
open for new fetish types. For example,
new this year is ABDL, a fetish around
Age and Adult Baby Play (Editor's note:
You can find more online in the February
issue of HIM MAGAZINE at www.himmagazine.de).
We have designed DAR-
KLANDS as a safe space for all fetishes.
We welcome all fetish types and will
continue to try to offer them a safe place
here with us where they can meet and
exchange with like-minded people. So, it's
really quite simple: if there are followers
of a new fetish, let's talk about it and we'll
see how we can create a Safe Space for
you in DARKLANDS.
“
We’ve gone through so much collectively over the decades: from Aids, to
learning to live with HIV, (made easier with the advent of PrEP), learning
now to live with Covid, and more recently we are living with Monkeypox
which affects our community statistically more than others. And still,
through everything, our community is bright, vibrant and strong, filled with
beautiful kinky souls and hearts, and people who have a wish to make the
world a better place. No matter the distance in miles between us or the diversity
of our people, we are one community and one people. I look forward
to hugging friends old and new back in Antwerp once more.
International Mr. Bootblack 2022 Alistair
Puppy Thaly says that DARKLANDS has contributed significantly
to strengthening his self-confidence - to stand by himself
and his fetish. How can we perhaps give people in general a
little more self-confidence to live out their fetish lustfully and
free of shame?
That's a good question! I would say, care less about what other
people think of you. Instead, focus on what you think of yourself
and what you really want. In the minds of many fetish enthusiasts,
there are often still these self-defeating questions floating
around about what other people might think of you. No! Stop it!
Ask yourself only what YOU want! DARKLANDS is the perfect
place to show you that you can be whoever you want to be. No
one will ever judge you here. You also have the freedom to discover
what you're made of when it comes to fetish.
The international superhero fetish competition is sure to be a
lot of fun. Hand on heart, does anyone stand a chance against
Spiderman? I mean, who can shoot a white sticky liquid like
cum out of their wrists?
No, absolutely right, I don't think there's anyone else who can
cum as much as Spiderman! On the other hand, superheroes
come and go, so maybe we'll all be surprised after all? You never
know one hundred percent! Maybe in a few years there will be
a superhero that fascinates us much more than Spiderman does
today - but currently Spiderman is simply the best!
Jacques, thank you very much for the interview! (ms)

19 Fetish
☛
DARKLANDS DRESSCODE
“
The rubber community is one of the
greatest in the world. In my travels
I’ve learned that we often take these
events and our home communities
for granted, but these communities
don’t just happen–they’re built. Our
community is built on every hug,
every kiss, and every backroom
experience. We have to create the
community we want, and we can’t
forget how fragile a community
can be. The rubber community has
truly changed my life, and I hope
it does the same for you! Enjoy
DARKLANDS, and may it be truly
unforgettable.
International Mr. Rubber 2022 Joe
More at: darklands.be
DARKLANDS FESTIVAL
March 07-14, 2023
Waagnatie Expo, Rijnkaai 150
2000 Antwerp, Belgium
Fetish clothing is desired during the day
program and mandatory during the night
parties on Friday, Saturday and Sunday.
You can find the respective DRESSCODE
online at darklands.be or you are welcome
to ask directly on site. Generally, the
minimum requirement is a simple pair of
jeans and a dark t-shirt, optionally from a
fetish brand. Most visitors show up in fetish
all day, gladly in a fetish mix of their
own design. After all, creativity leads to
new trends!
DARKLANDS WORTH KNOWING
At the DARKLANDS Festival the next
Mister Leather Belgium will be elected.
There will also be master classes on
various fetish topics, a separate area for
JustFor.Fans performers who want to film
on location and an exciting exhibition
by Jan Scheirs, one of Antwerp‘s leading
painters, who drew a series of sketches
during last year‘s festival, which he will
now present to the audience. Also, on
site are mostly many well-known porn
stars, in live shows will heat us up among
others Frankye T, John Rodriguez, Justin
Jett, Eddy or even Riley Mitchel. There
will also be other sexy live shows like
the poppy Showtunes and the X-Awards
will honor those people, companies and
organizations that have contributed to
the development and flourishing of the
worldwide gay fetish scene. And what
else? You can expect a Bootblack Europe
contest, open to all genders and sexual
orientations, and also the truly fantastic
Super Hero Fetish contest. After last
year‘s proclamation of the Spiderverse,
this year‘s DARKLANDS features the
Multi-fetish-verse. DARKLANDS brings
a new generation of heroes to the stage
in rubber, leather, sportswear or straight
up pups. At the festival itself there are
four big main parties (Mayhem, Fusion,
Rage and Fury) plus many special parties
and several playrooms for all fetishes. In
addition, events like the Horse Fair The
Boots, Skins & Punks Nighter, the European
Puppy & Handler Contest 2023,
the Worldfetish Show Contest Live and a
comprehensive accompanying program
- in short, every fetish lover will find here
something that is guaranteed to excite
him. A special tip for pups is Camp K9:
with a huge ball pool, a mosh area and
lots of toys, pups, handlers and friends
can really join in the fun and pup out!
Pictures @ arjanspannenburg.nl

Lifestyle 20
The master of eroticism:
Michael Woodcock breaks new ground
THE PURE FORM
OF LUST AND
INTIMACY
A picture is worth a thousand words - we all know the saying,
but sometimes it might be the other way around? After all, as the
saying goes, a single word is mightier than a sword? Words or
swords, one person who is a master of words and can make the
swords in our pants swing and the synapses in our heads explode
is Michael Woodcock.

21
Lifestyle
The German-Canadian lived and worked
in the USA for a long time before he returned
to his old home on the west coast of
Canada. There he met a sexy Berlin guy
a few years ago and decided to explore
his German roots more closely. Along the
way, Woodcock began writing under various
pseudonyms - essays, short stories,
poems and bitingly nasty commentaries
for the gay community. Since the beginning
of his career, the gay daddy has written
for over sixty international
media outlets,
published several books,
and has also always
championed the rights
of the gay community.
Now that the first gray
hairs are sprouting at
his temples, he wants to
concentrate fully on his passion, writing
gay stories and essays. In doing so, it
becomes apparent that Woodcock not
only has a lot to say, but does it really very
well in a very appealing, polished choice
of words. Michael Woodcock writes the
way Tom of Finland drew. And so, in his
bilingual articles, Woodcock not only enlightens
us about gay life itself and gives
advice around the best gay sex, but also
takes us into our own fantasies, where
mostly boys and daddies cavort and have
a hell of a lot of fun together.
Michael, you are starting out as an online
author these days. So far, your stories
have mainly appeared in international
print magazines for gay men. What fascinates
you about publishing your stories
digitally now?
It‘s faster and easier in many ways and
the contact with my fans is much more
direct. I have to admit that I haven‘t been
very much into the digital world so far,
I‘m the kind of person who likes to have
things right in front of my nose - and that
applies to texts as much as it does to dicks
and sexy boy asses. However, more and
more of my friends in Canada are only
reading digitally via eBooks or online portals,
and I kept getting told that I should
do the same. The nice thing about this is
that I can also respond directly to fans‘
requests. I‘ve been happy to be inspired
by other guys‘ experiences from time to
time - now it‘s more direct and so a fan‘s
fantasy can quickly become a hot story
with my fingers.
“When sex is really good, the
most important part of it
takes place in your brain. So,
we should allow ourselves to
experience better sex!”
It‘s a question of quality and one‘s own
standards. Of course, I find sexy films on
Twitter appealing in between, but it‘s like
eating a cheeseburger. It can be really
tasty in between, but every day it gets
terribly boring at some point. If you can
read an erotic story, on the other hand,
it opens a door to your own imagination
and to this limitless field of possibilities.
Movies especially in the erotic field
show you a finished story, the vision of a
director and his team.
The motto is: Eat or die.
Either it turns you on
or it doesn‘t. A text, on
the other hand, leaves
you room to enrich
your erotic experience
in the way that is most
beautiful and horny
for you personally. We should not forget
one aspect; sex is always a matter of the
head. And when sex is really good, the
most important part of it takes place in
your brain. So, we should allow ourselves
to experience better sex and enrich
ourselves, so that our erotic fantasy and
also one or the other, perhaps perceived
as perverted desire does not wither and
go in. Those who understand sex only as a
visual experience have, on the one hand,
understood quite little about sex and, on
the other hand, are simply missing out on
the best.
“
If you only think of sex as a visual
experience, you have pretty
little understanding of sex for
one thing, and you‘re simply
missing out on the best part.
You want your readers to be more immersed
in their own pleasure. We want
something similar for our HIM readers.
Can you tell us more about that?
It‘s about intimacy, it‘s about the feeling
that arises inside you and that makes you
forget time and space. Many gay men experience
this at its best in the few seconds
when orgasm flows through their bodies
in waves. That‘s great, but now imagine
that this ecstatic feeling can last not a
few seconds or minutes, but maybe even
hours. Wouldn‘t that be absolute crazy?
I try to take my readers there with my
stories. On the one hand through more or
less fictional stories, but on the other hand
also through essays that let us dive more
into the essence of our sexuality, into our
deepest desire. I create a safe space in the
minds of my readers that gives room for
every lustful idea, every secret feeling
and every erotic journey. Whoever can
do that, whoever learns that, will experience
sex in a completely new and much
more intense way. So, the only question
is whether you are already satisfied with
the quick kick for the rest of your life, or
whether perhaps for the first time in your
life you really want to experience sexual
ecstasy that goes beyond any known
notion and that puts pure pleasure at
the center - free of all the prejudices and
moral boundaries that we like to impose
on ourselves or have imposed on us
elsewhere.
Aren‘t erotic stories and essays for gay
men a bit old school in times of Twitter
and endless porn online?

Lifestyle 22
You just said your stories are more or less
fictional. Let me ask the famous question:
How close are your stories to reality,
how much is invented?
I can‘t give you a percentage breakdown
right now, but a lot of aspects in my stories
come from reality in one way or another.
Sometimes I have taken over certain
parts directly, often I allow myself to embed
experiences in a new setting. Often,
it‘s about the feeling of lust, eroticism, the
tingling in our loins, the twitching of our
cocks, in short, about a world of sensation
and that can really be best described if
you‘ve been immersed in it yourself.
You are currently working on a new
book about the special attraction between
a daddy and a boy - we are very
excited about it. Do you also have a
preference for boys in your private life
or what type of man do you prefer?
I‘m not set in my ways. Yes, I find boys
quite sexy, but only a certain kind of boys
who have retained a form of innocence.
During my visits to Berlin, for example,
but also to San Francisco, I often met
young guys who had already experienced
and sexually acted out every perversion
in their early twenties, but were already
dead inside. There was no real passion
anymore, no true lust. These guys could
bounce around on your cock for hours
in all positions, screaming “Daddy, give it
to me!“, but they were just not more than
depressed zombies playing a boring porn
movie over and over again. I felt very
sorry for these guys because they lost the
essence of sex - and that‘s what sex has
to do with in your own head. I love boys
and guys, old and young, who have kept
the fire in them, whether they‘ve had sex
with hundreds of guys or just a handful
of it. When I see that flame in their eyes,
perceive the pure form of intimacy in
their looks or touches, or already hear this
in a single soft, breathed sound, it‘s more
erotic than any perfectly formed body.
“
Imagine that ecstatic feeling of orgasm
lasting not a few seconds or minutes,
but maybe hours. Wouldn‘t that be absolute
crazy?
Maybe through your stories the boys can
learn again what true intimacy can be?
I would wish it on you. After all, I love to
give tips and help on how to improve sex.
I‘ve been very fortunate in my life to have
met some really exciting icons in the gay
community. I don´t say names now, but
I remember spending an evening with a
famous gay painter. We had both smoked
a joint, sat in front of a small pool and a
couple of guys were swimming naked in
it. And he told me that he had experienced
so many great things, great trips and
successes, good food, delicious wine, but
nothing, really nothing ever came close to
the intensity of really great sex. I can only
agree with him one hundred percent.
You also work as an erotic photographer
for some magazines and take very explicit
pictures of men, often in the wild.
Is that also a way for you to get back to
that intensity?
Absolutely. I love nature. Sex in nature.
Getting your dicks out somewhere in the
wild, kissing, feeling the wind between
your legs. A cold shiver that runs down
your upper arms and can become an
ecstatic fire inside you. And I love the
primitiveness of nature. The older I get,
the less I care about things like a person‘s
status, outward appearance, clothing, or
otherwise consumer goods. There is a
deep sadness buried in men who define
themselves by an inanimate thing, who
think a gold watch, a cool pair of shoes,
or an expensive car define them or make
them more interesting. The opposite is
true. The more we adorn ourselves, the
more we abandon our animal selves. But
only there, close to this natural anima-
“
I create a safe space in the minds of my
readers that gives room for any lustful
idea, any secret sensation, any erotic
journey. Whoever can do that, whoever
learns that, will experience sex in a completely
new and much more intense way.
listic throb deep inside ourselves, we
find true pleasure, we discover our very
essence and in the end happiness and
satisfaction. Nothing is more erotic than
that! A man who can stand naked in front
of you, with all his quirks and seemingly
imperfect idiosyncrasies, and who
radiates outwardly because he has found
himself within, is the most beautiful thing
in the world.
Michael, thank you for the interview.
(ms)
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https://mwoodcock.substack.com

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Fetish 24
700
STROKES !?
How a sub goes
to his limits
“Challenge Accepted!” - with the acceptance of this challenge,
a very special evening with very special “gentlemen”
started in the Gentle Lounge. 700 blows with percussion
tools of my choice, I had accepted this very special task,
my challenger was Tripp Evans. Tripp already knew that
I am very sadistic and had already had to take blows himself
in his time as a wrestler again and again. But as we
know, there is usually a lot of show involved - quite different
with BDSM. Tripp was almost completely inexperienced
in this sexual game. Would he really be able to withstand
700 blows from me?

25
Fetish
The place of this very special event was
the Gentle Lounge at Club sinberlin, a regular
event of the gay-BDSM.club. In this
special setting, participants have the opportunity
to give consent to active abuse,
participate in activities such as CMNM
(“Clothed Male Nude Male”, a type of play
where one man is clothed and the other
is naked) or be auctioned off directly at a
small market. A lot can happen at Gentle
Lounge - the guests knew this, Tripp didn‘t
yet. It was no surprise that the audience
stayed quiet, they had a rough idea of
what could happen. This little muscle boy
was getting involved in something that
many other guys would categorically say
no to - a very hard thing to do, even in the
BDSM world. Respect or stupidity? After
all, if Tripp lost, he would be offered as
merchandise on the Gentle Lounge to the
other guests as well.
After Tripp accepted the challenge, he
first had to take off his shirt and also his
singlet, which he wore underneath, was
taken off his shoulders. He was tied up
into the bondage frame in the spread-eagle
position, a posture in which a person
stretches his arms and legs out wide. (The
position is named in reference to an eagle
whose wings are spread). Perfect to whip
from behind, but just as accessible from
the front! I looked him in the eye and asked
him “Ready for some good punches?”
and so we started with a few simple
things that he already knew well as a
wrestler. This was followed by a back slap
and I immediately had his full attention.
The spectators were excited and off they
went with a soft flogger whip on their
backs... to warm up. Tripp took it easy. A
few twitches when I pulled harder, but no
real effort for him. Not even when the first
slaps landed on his ass. But the previous
steps only served to stimulate the blood
flow. Another flogger followed. Less cock,
but a little harder. A lot harder when you
pull the whip through. But before that
really got going, the singlet was first pulled
even lower, so that Tripp‘s sexy bubble
butt was better shown off naked.

Fetish 26
The blows pelted down on his wide cross
and fat, tight butt cheeks, which were
almost vertical against his slim waist and
laughed round and full at me. And when
the buttocks twitched too little, I hit -
instead of alternating - then only on one
side and there always on the same spot.
Tripp felt how the impact hurt more with
each blow and he started to twist his body
in an excited and sexy way, hoping to
avoid the blows. A game to the delight of
both parties in the BDSM fetish.
“Okay, probably still too much freedom of
movement,” I thought to myself and tied
him more strictly in the frame! “Let‘s try
something harder now,” I whispered to
him. The rubber riding crop came next.
Not too long and with a flat broad tip, so
that one could aim well also at sensitive
places. Once pulled through with a little
more force and you could leave a nice
imprint. And that on the already warmly
played and well reddened ass as well as
on the cross. The rose flogger followed,
softer but with more weight creating a
deeper feeling. Tripp stirred well and tried
to dodge as far as he could, but again. In
doing so, however, he still had a certain
calmness. In between I asked if everything
was okay - he confirmed it and
explained, all no problem. He‘s definitely a
masochist who enjoys it.
“You asshole, keep going!”
Just under 250 strokes had me and Tripp
so after some time already through, with
each stroke he twitched and moaned
lustfully. I asked for the number and he
knew it correctly. So, how about some
variety now? So why not work the front
for a change? Yes, I‘m a sadist and that‘s a
good thing. The breast was my first target
and here specifically the nipples. First
gently, then firmly reach in and yes, there
it was: He looked me challengingly in the
eyes and I could just read how he screamed
inside “You asshole, keep going!”. And
he didn‘t have to tell me that twice. But
his fat well-trained chest itself was also
my target and with a firm grip around the
muscle, I sank my fingertips into the flesh
at the edge of the muscle tissue. A very
horny and slightly to hard painful thing.
And there they were again, the challenging looks. “You asshole,
keep going!”
I took the crop and let it patter on the already strained nipples
and pecs, so that I could already create a high feeling in him with
little intensity. He looked at me challengingly, a cheeky mixture
between begging and hatred. And on it went, this time between
the legs. Yes, on the genitals, but also on the inner thighs. He
tried to pinch them together so I couldn‘t get there, but I had
done a good job of restraint and he had no chance. Then before I
went back to his back, I quickly tied his cock and balls together,
made him go up on his toes a bit, and then attached the other
end of the rope to a hook above him. Every time he would now
twitch, he would also pull his own balls at the same time. A great
construction. After this small, but not unimportant excursion to
his front, we continued at the back. Since the front was counted,
we had already reached a little over 300 strokes - a few more
strokes with the crop and we were already celebrating half-time,
350 strokes! It was time for the nasty stuff.

27
Fetish
A bullwhip for
more speed
The bull whip and the rod were still on
the schedule and yes, I wanted to give him
a realistic chance, which is why I didn‘t
get them out until now. The bull whip is
not the hardest of the two, but the very
fine, targeted and punctual pain is already
very crass. Combined with the loud bang,
which makes a lot of difference especially
psychologically, it‘s a pretty impressive
combination. And yes, his twitching
spoke for itself. I asked again in between if
everything was okay and if he could still
continue. No problems, he said. Over 50
more strokes went down on him until he
then slowly showed less and less reaction.
A certain routine began and if Tripp could
do anything, it was to take it all. I could
tell he had good headspace here, and he
could probably take the next 300 punches
with ease. But I wouldn‘t make it that easy
for him, I thought to myself.
I switched to the rod that was really
nasty. At the same time, I knew that I
would have to work primarily on his
psyche and wear him down in order to
break his extraordinary mental strength.
I already knew this phenomenon from
some other martial artists I had played
with once before. These often have such
reflective awareness, especially in terms
of pain, that they are really hard to crack.
But I knew what I was getting myself into,
and I knew Tripp from another session
where I had tested out some initial aspects
with him before we had arranged today‘s
demonstration. So on with the game.
A monotonous rhythm is wonderfully
grueling, especially when it goes to the
same place over and over again. The sub
still feels the last beat dying away and
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Fetish 28
With it I had cut myself however into
the own flesh, because my spectator
confirmed Tripp with its indication each
time. We were already at 220 strokes and
were heading unerringly towards 200,
although I had planned to bring him to his
personal limits at 250 at the latest.
“Let‘s make it a little more demanding
and I‘ll count myself!”, I said. Sure, I could
have cheated here, but no, I‘m tough
but fair. Well, or let‘s put it this way, I
can be unfair without having to give
false information. I switched back to the
lighter but much faster riding crop. With
it I could strike very purposefully and
in almost any fast rhythm. And just as
a monotonous rhythm can be grueling,
an unpredictable one can have a similar
effect. Especially when you have to count
along with the beats, and some of them
happen so quickly one after the other that
you can‘t really grasp them at all. Add to
that the different places on the body. And
so, I finally managed to get Tripp to slowly
get into trouble.
Wrong! Fuck!
already knows that the next one will follow soon. This rhythm
can bring him to despair, because he can‘t prevent it and every
blow gets harder. The ass hurts, the previous blows can still all
be felt, there is always one that hurts more than the previous
one and it will be followed by the next one, which will also hurt
more and then another one and so on. With Tripp, however, I
had to proceed differently. He managed not to lose sight of the
big picture. Only 250 more strokes and he would have made it.
His thoughts were like this or something similar. And the only
way I could break this thought was to make the 250 more strokes
an infinitely large mountain, a “Never Ending Story”.
“We‘re at 250 now, you count along backwards and when I ask
you, you tell me the correct number. If you‘re wrong, we start
over at 250”, I explained to him. Of course, I would count down
further myself, but he wasn‘t supposed to know that. It should
wear him down psychologically. At the same time, I chose a spectator
who would also count this for control purposes. So, I could
concentrate more on the reactions of the sub.
The first time it came out at 164, after a
few rhythmic and then almost impossible
to grasp and unpredictable arhythmic
beats. “Wrong! We start with 220 again!”,
I said and he just moaned “Fuck!” And
then I had him! From that moment on
he couldn‘t call a result correctly, he was
broken! We made several attempts and
each time he had to start counting again
at 220. In my internal count, however, he
was already down to just shy of 80 open
strokes and I knew that if he didn‘t give
up right now, I‘d probably have to admit
defeat and he wouldn‘t be available to
all the guests afterwards, which is what
I really wanted. “You give up?” I shouted
and he replied “No!”. Twenty more very
hard blows followed. “Number?” - “I don‘t
know!” - “220 again and harder!” With
actually only 46 strokes left, he finally
gave up, because he assumed that he
would never manage to count down the
strokes correctly and because he perhaps
also assumed that I would cheat. But he
was definitely not at the real performance
limit yet! I untied him and took him in my
arms for the time being. He had done a
great job and I was very proud of him. But
the deal stood and it was also a reward
for him. So, after the intimate hug he got
a collar put on and was put on a leash for
the guests to use. A few minutes later he
already got a full load from the first three
guys. He was tied up, fucked and passed
around between the different guests and
as a boy-toy he had to be at everyone‘s
disposal. (db)

29
Fetish
NOTE
The session with Tripp had been
discussed in detail in advance, coordinated
with his interests and stop
words had also been agreed upon.
In the final discussion, Tripp stated
that he found the session very awesome
and would probably want to
go further in a next round. Impact
play in particular, but also the other
types of play mentioned, are risky
and should not be practiced without
adequate training and experience.
Impact play in particular can cause
serious harm and even death. This
article is not intended to be a guide
to play, nor does it claim to educate
about the dangers. What risks and
dangers there are, how to minimize
them and how to set up a cool
impact play session, you can learn
in special courses, for example, from
our author Dan.
Author Dan Apus
Monoceros is a
coach for nonmonogamous
relationships and
kinks, works as a
bondage trainer
and roping artist,
and hosts the
events of www.
gay-BDSM.clubs
Tripp Evans is
an underground
wrestler who, as a
small macho man,
likes to be defeated
in a test of
strength and then
punished accordingly.
Who more
of him there is on
Twitter
@TrippEvans3
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Lifestyle 30
EVERGREEN
CHEMSEX?
The connection
between
drugs, sex and
gay guys

31
Lifestyle
The topic of sex and drugs has been a hot
topic in the gay community for many years,
and depending on one‘s views, the
media either criminalizes the sex-positive
community in one sweep or calls for drugs
to be legalized under state control in order
to get a better grip on adulterated substances
and overdoses.
For years, the German Aids Federation has
been campaigning for a different approach
to the issue of drugs - so far mostly in vain.
The situation is similar in many other
European countries. However, starting
this month, consumers in Berlin, as previously
in Austria and Switzerland, will for
the first time be able to have illegal drugs
tested by experts for dosage and possible
impurities - so-called Drug-Checking is
intended to help minimize the number
of (often fatal) overdoses. Canada, on the
other hand, is currently taking a different
approach - in the province of British
Columbia, possession of up to two grams of
hard drugs is to remain unpunished in the
future. With this model project, politicians
hope to get a grip on the drug crisis.
A research team from the Netherlands
has now set itself the task of illuminating
the initial situation from a different angle
and wanted to know: Why do gay men
occasionally or regularly resort to illegal
substances in the first place? It must be
clearly stated that the majority of those
men turn to cannabis or erection-sustaining
substances as well as stimulants such
as poppers. Only then do substances such
as GHB/GBL, mephedrone, MDMA and,
to a lesser extent, cocaine and ketamine
come into play. By means of intravenous
injections, so-called slamming, crystal
methamphetamine (also known as crystal
meth, Tina and Ice) is also used in chemsex.
Overall, about 15 percent of gay and
bisexual men (EMIS survey) from Europe
recently reported having had chemsex,
and about ten percent practice it regularly.
“
Many slammers get addicted to this
ritual. The powerful rush you crave
or see emerging in the other person.
After a slam, your voice drops a few
octaves and you adopt a different
posture. There's something animalistic
about that, I find that erotic. Also,
when I watch slam videos, I get a kick
from the effect of the rush, the moment
when the drug flows through
the bloodstream. Others enjoy the
rush right after the slam. (44 years)

Lifestyle 32
As it turned out, there are several reasons
why gay guys repeatedly resort to it: an
intense high, a higher sense of pleasure,
a stronger sense of belonging and the
reduction of sexual inhibitions are the
four most frequently cited motives. In the
view of many health experts, the study
comes just at the right time, because drug
use in the gay community is on the rise
again, which is why the EU drug strategy
2021-2025 recently explicitly included
LGBTQ people for the first time.
Research director Thijs Albers wanted
to delve deeper into the subject matter
and therefore, together with colleagues
at Utrecht University, devoted his study
entitled “Meth, Sex, Health and Pleasure”
to the topics of chemsex, the gay community
and slamming.
To this end, the team of experts interviewed
gay and bisexual men between the
ages of 22 and 75 - including both singles
and couples, men from the countryside as
well as from the big city. The goal is clear:
to be able to offer better adequate support
and to improve prevention measures.
Put simply, the better you understand
chemsex friends, the more likely you are
to be able to meet them at eye level and
offer help when needed. No coercion, no
paternalism, but direct contact and an
understanding of possible motives.
“Since I stopped using, I'm still in contact
with friends from my user network.
That's a problem. Building a new circle
of friends. When I heard someone say at
a meeting that they used to do chemsex
too, I immediately thought, yeah, let's
exchange numbers, then maybe we can
help each other, or it was my addiction
thought, there you go. (30 years)
“
I am afraid that I will lose my contacts. Looking for other
activities, it‘s not easy to build a new circle of friends. I know
people who use it from time to time, and then I would have to
stop seeing them too, even though we have a friendship, and I
think that‘s pretty hard. (61 years)

33
Lifestyle
“
I was regularly abroad for work and
be
in my free time I could date and do
drugs. That‘s how I met my current
partner in 2009. We had sex under
the influence of Tina and immediately
felt connected. Our subsequent contact
developed into a mutual infatuation.
(49 years)
It also turned out that there are both
individual and social factors that motivate
people to slam. Many participants
described the intoxication and pleasure
that occurs after injection, as well as the
dissolution of boundaries that enables
sexual exploration, as the most important
aspects for slamming. Over and
over, words like “intense”, “awesome”,
“overwhelming” and “perfect” were used
to describe the feelings after slamming.
It is understandable that chemsex can so
quickly become an addiction. In addition,
the study also shows that through the use
of such substances for many men gradually
all inhibitions fall away, they are more
open to different sexual practices or even
special sexual practices such as fisting can
“
Through a dating app, I got in touch with a man who lived
around the corner from me. We met, had sex, and used another
guy for an entire weekend. When I got kicked out of my
room the following week, I moved in with him. We became
roommates and fuck buddies and went to sex parties together.
(25 years)
implemented more easily. Some even
mentioned how slamming can change
their perception of a sexual act itself. In
addition, however, the aforementioned,
social factors then play an increasingly
important role, especially since slammers
can meet online more easily through dating
apps. Some participants emphasized
the role of online spaces in finding other
men who slam. According to them, the
Internet enabled men to find other men
with similar interests. The code words
used (for example, Party and Play, PnP,
Tina, T, High and Horny, HnH) and emojis
(candy, clouds, and ice cubes) helped them
find chemsex and slam partners more
quickly and easily.
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Lifestyle 34
However, the connections and networks
that develop over the shared interest
in sexualized drug use or, in particular,
slamming, are no longer only sexual in
nature - in fact, friendships also form that
can make stopping drugs be interpreted
as a betrayal of the friendship itself. In
addition, many study participants confirmed
that under such a drug influence it
is increasingly difficult to assess whether
there is really consent about various
sexual practices during sex. For study
leader Albers, it is clear that strategies and
programs aimed at reducing the harms associated
with substance use must draw on
the experiences of users if they are to be
successful in the long term. Therefore, he
said, it is immensely important to listen to
„
the interviewees, not to promote chemsex,
but to understand the mechanisms
that are used as personal motivation to
start or even to continue using. This is the
only way for some to question themselves
and their consumption and for others to
perhaps clearly speak out against illegal
substances directly in advance, because
they can better understand, assess and
evaluate for themselves the reasoning
behind it as well as the social pressure of
a group or a sexual partner. In short, we
should listen to chemsex men - for our
health and for a better coexistence. HIM
MAGAZINE therefore gives space to the
voices of chemsex users here - all interviews
are taken from the study “Meth,
Sex, Health and Pleasure” by Utrecht
University. (jh)
A slam session is also a social activity
and creates connection. In this way deep
conversations can happen; you talk
about each other‘s happiness and sometimes
about the pain of life. In this way,
you build a friendship. (56 years)
If you need help or advice, contact in confidence
the specialized offices for gay men at (also
in English language) German Aids Federation
(Aidshilfe) telephone advice line:
0180/33 1 94 11
www.aidshilfe.de/beratung
Chat directly with experts at
www.gayhealthchat.de

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Fetish 36
A few years ago, I thought I was
doing great because I had decided
to become a vegetarian. I kept that
up for a decade, too. In that decade,
people also suddenly appeared who
were apparently even more awesome,
and it was all so new: the vegans.
If I‘m honest, I smiled at them
a bit at the beginning and then had
to realize that this way of life is not
a marginal phenomenon. For me it
was out of the question, I just loved
eggs, cream and so one too much.
What vegetarians and vegans have
in common is the physical well-being
of living beings. After ten years I
found myself back in a normal life,
but an awareness of animal products
and how they are produced
remained.
How do you get leather
lust and animal love
under one leather hat?
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37 Fetish
Norbert Benike works as a photographer
and debuted in 2022 as a fetish fashion
designer. His style: punk meets rock
meets 80s! He loves it sometimes loud
and colorful, then again quiet and black
and white - and the fetish may not be
missing. Even away from his creative
work, he is a real one-of-a-kind. Why? He
was actually born in Berlin and not only
moved there.
www.nberotic.com
Instagram @nberotic_photographie
Today I buy certain products with different
eyes and with a different conscience.
For example, I have decided for myself
that I largely do without leather shoes, if
possible, if there is a sexy “vegan“ variant
or alternative. Alone already certain
production ways, which are disputed for
cheap articles, are a blow in the face of
the animals or, better to say, a blow in the
muzzle. Let‘s leave aside this slandering
debate, since it is about the animal in general.
Everyone knows that a cow is slaughtered,
so the skin remains. But would the
skin also remain if nobody ate meat?
Now there are many friends and lovers
of leather in the fetish scene and we are
really talking about a lot of friends and
lovers here. And these then also cover
themselves - of course - with countless
articles, regardless of the price. I don‘t
even want to go into the processing,
which is certainly in some cases also
very questionable. Okay, I have to admit
that a man in a leather chaps or leather
pants or a leather jockstrap also gives me
an exciting tingle. But then comes up - I
don‘t know why - this thought that living
beings had to let your life for it. And so, I
have been looking for several years, what
alternatives there are in the fetish scene,
or I as a designer, what I can offer myself,
so that the love life possibly gets an
animal-friendly kick. For example, I have
integrated a strap-on dildo made of fake
crocodile leather into my collection.
The US label Slickitup.com offers, among
other things, chaps in leather look, which
not only look very hot, but also have a
very pleasant wearing comfort. I mean,
just try yourself to stay in a leather chaps
relaxed cross-legged between the legs
of another man! Another option, yes, an
absolutely great alternative to leather
- because it simply looks good too - is
neoprene. This grip, this suppleness on
the body, this practicality when it comes
to care, make this material already almost
unbeatable good. I suspect that in the
future we can expect to see many entirely
new high-tech materials that will quickly
arouse our curiosity and encourage us to
try them out.
I‘m a self-confessed fan of harnesses
because they not only look sexy, but
they actually have a use. How nice it is
when you have a wild stallion under you
that likes to go completely wild, but you
always have him under control thanks to
the reins of the harness. Or you can hold
onto it during a lube orgy so you don‘t
slide down involuntarily. So, what to do as
a self-confessed harness fan and animal
lover? How happy I was when, during
my forays through the fabric displays
of numerous markets and stores, I came
across a very special material: Webbing!
Preferably in cotton. A very grateful material
and for me very modern and easy
to work with. Besides black, of course,
also in numerous other colors to have. To
the eye-catcher they become then by the
closures and connections.
In the end, it‘s like this: Of course, I know
that I will not save the world, and that
nevertheless many animals will find their
last station in boots, for example. But
maybe I will manage to make sure that
the next time I buy a leather article, at
least it will be of high quality, so that the
animal can be glad to have been processed
at least in a high-class leather vest. I
would like to close this topic with a still
open question: Are vegans allowed to
swallow sperm? (nb)

Lifestyle 38
The wonderfully
funny world of
Daniel-Ryan Spaulding
“HARDER!” IS NOT
A GOOD SAFE WORD
When was the last time you had a good
laugh? Preferably at yourself or at the crazy
idiosyncrasies of our gay community?
Can‘t you even remember? I felt the same
way until I fortunately became aware of
Daniel-Ryan Spaulding last year. As an
incredibly funny satire of an obviously
gay newscaster, he became known to a
larger audience in Germany with a short
scene in Jan Böhmermann‘s show ZDF-
Magazin-Royale, but the simply crazy
funny comedian has much more to offer
and is definitely funnier than Böhmermann
ever was. With his iconic short
films on Instagram, he already provided
amusement during the lockdowns. As a
Canadian in Berlin, he made fun of all the
craziness of the capital‘s gay community,
always affectionate and yet bitterly funny.
In one video, for example, he threw
himself in the dust in front of the sex club
Berghain and whined played, what he
should do as a gay man at all, where the
club had to close in the meantime due to
the lockdown. So Berlin!
Another special feature distinguishes
Spaulding: He can make people laugh all
over the world and proves humor really
knows no boundaries. He is currently
spending his days in Brazil, fulfilling a
personal dream. His German fans don‘t
have to be sad, though, because the man
with the mischievous smile will certainly
be delighting his fans live in Berlin again
soon - until that time comes, you can
watch his standup special “So Berlin!” online.
In it, the “nice boy from Vancouver”
doesn‘t mince words and is just as happy
to talk about gay sex as he is about strange
safe spaces, bareback with strangers or
the question of why there are vampire
whores in Berlin. Berlin is and remains
a special place for Spaulding, the city
has made him a human wreck, he says
with a wink, before he explains quite
realistically: “To say you like someone is
already emotional abuse in Berlin!” Along
the way, he shows unsuspecting women
in the sex club how to give a really good
blow job, heroically transforming himself
into the “Rosa Parks of all cocksuckers,” so
to speak. And Spaulding also has a tip for
us gay guys: “Harder!” is definitely not a
good safe word for hardcore sex. Thanks,
Daniel! (ms)
SO BERLIN!-COMEDY SPECIAL
Directly at:
danielryanspaulding.com
Instagram: @danielryanspaulding

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