curb body bad-mouthing, 96–98dumping the junk, 94–96television, dangerous messages, 7ten tools for radical self-love, 94–114banish the binary, 103–5be in community, 111–13be in movement, 107–9curb body bad-mouthing, 96–98dumping the junk, 94–96explore your terrain, 105–7give yourself grace, 113–14make a new story, 109–11meditate on a mantra, 100–3reframe your framework, 98–100terrorism: defined, 53messages about Arabs, 62; See also body terrorismThe Gifts of Imperfections, 111Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls, 97–98thinking, doing, being, 60–64thoughts, breaking free, 61–63“Three,” 69Three Peaces, 19–24peace with differences, 20–23, 57peace with not understanding, 19–20, 57peace with one’s body, 23–24, 57–58Till, Emmett, 11toxic masculinity, 35toxic messages: Arab terrorism, 62body shaming children and minorities, 27–28dumping media sources, 94–96neutralizing, 66–68spreading, 77television, 7. See also mediatransformation, 73, 83
transgender individuals: body shaming youth, 28, 30Leelah Alcorn, 52searched by TSA, 54trolling, health, 21Trump, Donald, 2, 85trust, opening up to others, 73TSA agent, violated by, 53–54unapologetic action, 65, 70–72be in movement, 107–9explore your terrain, 105–7make a new story, 109–11unapologetic agreements, 87–91Unapologetic Inquiries, 5apologies, 12, 17assigning default bodies, 34beauty products, 40, 42being “polite,” 77body-shame language, 98consuming body-shame content, 95differences, 31early body shame, 28, 36ecstasy, 107feeling terror, 55fun movement, 109impact of body shame, 24, 60intersectionality, 9Leelah Alcorn, 52making comparisons, 10making connections, 113making others “the same,” 23mantras, 103others’ bodies, 63, 81peace with not understanding, 20
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ContentsPrologue1 Making Self-Love
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PrologueLong before there was a dig
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