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“Dear
Cheryl,”
I get many questions on a daily basis
throughout my matchmaking career. Three
of the most frequently asked questions I get
are as follows:
Q: “If I go on a first date, and I don’t feel I am
physically attracted to the person, should I even
go out on a second date? Or should I tell him right
away?
A: When people meet, they want to have butterflies
and hope it’s love at first sight. But that’s actually not
the case. I always have a two date rule. I feel the first
time you meet someone, there are nerves involved,
and sometimes people feel they are on an interview.
The second date usually people are more themselves,
and you can see a different side of someone. So when
it comes to attraction, there are 5 different types! As
long as you have at least one of these, you should
definitely proceed to a 2nd date! Look for either a
physical, emotional, intellectual, romantic or sexual
attraction. If you don’t have at least one of these, then
thanking them for their time, and explaining you had a
nice date but do not feel any connection and wish
them the best of luck.
Q: I have been out of the dating loop for a while. Is
there any advice you can give me today for a first
date?
A: A first date seems very easy for some people that
have been single a while. But sometimes when you’ve
been out of the loop, there’s certain tips that you
should remember:
Ask questions to get to know each other, do not
make it like an interview. And take turns talking.
Sometimes being a good listener is most
important.
Do not talk about exes, reason for a divorce,
religion, politics or medical issues on a first date.
Dress to impress! You have one chance to make a
great first impression!
Cheryl Maida
The Black Tie Club
Women, always offer to help with the bill. Men, do
not take her up on that offer!
Men-always walk a woman to her car. If she saw
Ladies, offering to pay for valet is a beautiful
gesture. Women- always thank him! And when you
get home, text him you’re home safely, and thank
him again for the dinner.
Be the date you want to have!
Q: What types of pictures should I have on my
dating profile?
A: Pictures on a dating profile is what will capture the
interest of others. Use as many full length photos as
possible. Try to show hobbies and interests in your
profile. Your pictures should tell a story about who you
are.l! Try to display different types of looks, such as
gym attire, a daytime look and definitely one formal
picture. Minimize filtering as much as possible! And
keep your pictures as recent as possible.! I always tell
members in my database, every 4-6 weeks they should
change up their pictures as well! Keep it interesting!
Q: I have young children, and I don’t know whether
I should list their ages on my dating profile.
A: I believe there’s no point of hiding anything, but at
the same time, everything doesn’t need to be disclosed
either. I think listing that you have children and the
amount of children is very important. Everyone has a
different opinion as to what age of children will work for
them. So I believe that could be a conversation after
you start communicating with someone. You might hit it
off so much, that having young kids won’t matter to
someone. Other times, you may be in two different
stages of life, where an empty nester might not feel
someone with young kids would be compatible. But at
least have that opportunity to speak with someone,
before disqualifying anyone based on an assumption.
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