A Leader's Guide to Trauma in the Unit - US Army War College

Army War College Spouses’ Project
PRACTICAL IDEAS
Many FRGs use a spousal information form that includes questions about who they
would like to be with them in the event of a trauma. Although this seems helpful, and
may be in some cases, we have also seen situations in which this has added more stress to
an already difficult situation. Often this section of the form is not updated and friendships
change over time. Even a close friend may not be able to offer support if their spouse is
also deployed or involved with the casualty. It is best to ask the grieving spouse whom
they would like you to call. Be sure the friend is aware of the situation and up to the
emotional task before coming to the house.
HELPFUL HINTS
If you feel uncomfortable speaking to the FRG about casualty notification, request a
speaker from the G-1 Casualty Office to come and address the group.
Have a meeting prior to deployment with Commanders, Commanders’ spouses, Rear
Detachment Commanders and Family Readiness Group leaders to go over the process of
notification and support and work through specific trauma scenarios. Some suggested
scenarios are: the death of a Commander; mass casualty; if a spouse does not want FRG
support; and any others that may seem appropriate.
FRUSTRATIONS
Inaccurate addresses and phone numbers bring the notification process to a halt. Having
accurate contact information allows the notification to occur as soon as possible.
Keep in mind that you can only encourage and stress the importance of preparedness.
You can give them tools (such as those found in the Appendix), to help them make
decisions and organize information, but the individual is responsible to choose or not
choose to be prepared.
IMPLICATIONS
Emphasizing personal responsibility and empowering spouses with information through
education enables family members to make sound decisions for themselves. Knowing
their family is prepared allows the servicemember to focus on the mission.
APPENDIX ITEMS
Important Documents
Decision Timeline
Final Thoughts Worksheet
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A Leader’s Guide to Trauma in the Unit April 2004