A Leader's Guide to Trauma in the Unit - US Army War College
A Leader's Guide to Trauma in the Unit - US Army War College
A Leader's Guide to Trauma in the Unit - US Army War College
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<strong>Army</strong> <strong>War</strong> <strong>College</strong> Spouses’ Project<br />
As a leader, you may have several groups with different emotions <strong>to</strong> deal with. This is<br />
especially true <strong>in</strong> combat. Your ma<strong>in</strong> effort is with <strong>the</strong> family of <strong>the</strong> deceased, but you<br />
will also be looked <strong>to</strong> for help, guidance, <strong>in</strong>formation and support from spouses whose<br />
soldiers have been <strong>in</strong>jured and those whose soldiers are still <strong>in</strong> harm’s way. Get with<br />
o<strong>the</strong>r leaders <strong>in</strong> your unit <strong>to</strong> divide <strong>the</strong> responsibilities. Refer spouses <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> Rear<br />
Detachment whenever possible. Remember that you are not <strong>the</strong> only one who has <strong>to</strong> plan,<br />
organize and do. Let <strong>the</strong> people responsible (<strong>the</strong> Commander, CAO, Chapla<strong>in</strong>) do <strong>the</strong>ir<br />
job. Be sure <strong>to</strong> take offers of help. If someone offers <strong>to</strong> help, take <strong>the</strong>ir name and number<br />
and call <strong>the</strong>m when a need arises.<br />
The unit may want <strong>to</strong> consider hav<strong>in</strong>g a meet<strong>in</strong>g with Battalion and Company leaders and<br />
spouses. This provides an opportunity for <strong>the</strong>m <strong>to</strong> be <strong>in</strong>formed about what is go<strong>in</strong>g on. It<br />
also gives <strong>the</strong>m an opportunity <strong>to</strong> bond <strong>to</strong>ge<strong>the</strong>r as a group after this tragedy. Companies<br />
may want <strong>to</strong> have a meet<strong>in</strong>g with <strong>the</strong>ir soldiers/families for <strong>the</strong> same purpose.<br />
Remember that <strong>the</strong> unit is griev<strong>in</strong>g and you are griev<strong>in</strong>g. This is especially true if <strong>the</strong><br />
soldier was your friend. It may be harder <strong>to</strong> support your friend due <strong>to</strong> your own grief.<br />
Lower your expectations that you may have of yourself. Allow yourself <strong>to</strong> grieve.<br />
“One who has no time <strong>to</strong> mourn, has no time <strong>to</strong> mend.” --John Dunn<br />
PRACTICAL IDEAS<br />
The follow<strong>in</strong>g are some guidel<strong>in</strong>es on how <strong>the</strong> Family Read<strong>in</strong>ess Group can help family<br />
members after a casualty. Every circumstance is different and what works well <strong>in</strong> one<br />
situation may not work at all <strong>in</strong> ano<strong>the</strong>r. Ask if you can lend specific help. Let <strong>the</strong>m know<br />
what you are available <strong>to</strong> do. Coord<strong>in</strong>ate efforts of all those will<strong>in</strong>g and able <strong>to</strong> offer help.<br />
The follow<strong>in</strong>g are some areas where assistance may be most urgently needed:<br />
1. Around <strong>the</strong> House:<br />
• Is English <strong>the</strong> first language of family members, or do <strong>the</strong>y need assistance with<br />
translation?<br />
• Are bills due?<br />
• Is assistance needed with houseclean<strong>in</strong>g or lawn care? Are <strong>the</strong>re errands that can be<br />
run?<br />
• Are meals necessary? If so, are <strong>the</strong>re special needs or dietary restrictions? (see<br />
Appendix – Meal Support)<br />
• Is pet care required?<br />
• Do <strong>the</strong>y wish help <strong>in</strong> organiz<strong>in</strong>g condolence letters and gifts so notes of thanks may<br />
be sent later?<br />
2. Children:<br />
• What are <strong>the</strong>ir ages?<br />
• Is childcare required?<br />
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A Leader’s <strong>Guide</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>Trauma</strong> <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> <strong>Unit</strong> April 2004