A Leader's Guide to Trauma in the Unit - US Army War College
A Leader's Guide to Trauma in the Unit - US Army War College
A Leader's Guide to Trauma in the Unit - US Army War College
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<strong>Army</strong> <strong>War</strong> <strong>College</strong> Spouses’ Project<br />
SPECIAL CIRCUMSTANCES<br />
DEATH, ILLNESS, INJURY OF A LEADER<br />
“You make a liv<strong>in</strong>g by what you get. You make a life by what you give.”<br />
--W<strong>in</strong>s<strong>to</strong>n Churchill<br />
Emotions run high <strong>in</strong> a unit when a leader is killed. Somehow no one expects <strong>the</strong> leader<br />
<strong>to</strong> be vulnerable. S<strong>in</strong>ce <strong>the</strong> leader’s spouse is usually <strong>the</strong> one help<strong>in</strong>g o<strong>the</strong>rs, it is often<br />
hard for <strong>the</strong> unit <strong>to</strong> know how <strong>to</strong> help him/her. It can also be hard for <strong>the</strong> leader’s spouse<br />
<strong>to</strong> accept help from <strong>the</strong> unit. Be<strong>in</strong>g aware of <strong>the</strong> uniqueness of this situation can help.<br />
PRACTICAL IDEAS<br />
• Make sure that <strong>the</strong> S1 or Rear Detachment has, at all times, a complete and updated<br />
roster of <strong>the</strong> unit.<br />
• As with all griev<strong>in</strong>g spouses, a leader’s spouse will often act out of character.<br />
Everyone should be aware of this and not take anyth<strong>in</strong>g personally. It is important<br />
that you do not put your own expectations on how a person is griev<strong>in</strong>g.<br />
• When a leader dies, often groups outside <strong>the</strong> unit help (sister battalions, <strong>the</strong><br />
Brigade and <strong>the</strong> Division). Whichever group <strong>the</strong> spouse is most comfortable with<br />
should take <strong>the</strong> lead <strong>in</strong> support. Aga<strong>in</strong>, do not take this personally. Keep <strong>in</strong> m<strong>in</strong>d<br />
what is best for <strong>the</strong> spouse.<br />
• It is helpful if <strong>the</strong> Executive Officer’s (XO) spouse, or if unable <strong>the</strong> S3’s spouse,<br />
coord<strong>in</strong>ates <strong>the</strong> unit’s efforts of support.<br />
• Someone will be appo<strong>in</strong>ted as act<strong>in</strong>g Commander. Usually at a later date <strong>the</strong>re<br />
will be a change of command. This can be a very difficult time for <strong>the</strong> leader’s<br />
spouse.<br />
• The unit may have difficulty accept<strong>in</strong>g <strong>the</strong> new leader and his spouse. Though this<br />
is normal, o<strong>the</strong>r leaders <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> unit should be sensitive <strong>to</strong> this and try <strong>to</strong> set <strong>the</strong><br />
example. It may be helpful <strong>to</strong> have a social function for <strong>the</strong> unit as soon as<br />
possible after <strong>the</strong> change of command.<br />
• In <strong>the</strong> case of <strong>in</strong>jury or illness, a leader may or may not be returned <strong>to</strong> duty. The<br />
leader may even be medically discharged.<br />
When a leader dies, suddenly <strong>the</strong> unit has lost its leadership on both <strong>the</strong> active duty and<br />
family side of <strong>the</strong> battalion. Though all soldiers are equally important, <strong>the</strong> death of a<br />
leader creates a significant change <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> unit. Be<strong>in</strong>g aware of this can help <strong>the</strong> unit cope<br />
with <strong>the</strong>se changes.<br />
(For additional ideas see Support section. For additional ideas on illness and <strong>in</strong>jury see<br />
Illness/Injury section.)<br />
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A Leader’s <strong>Guide</strong> <strong>to</strong> <strong>Trauma</strong> <strong>in</strong> <strong>the</strong> <strong>Unit</strong> April 2004