“Det var et barn, jeg ikke fik, som jeg skulle have haft”
“Det var et barn, jeg ikke fik, som jeg skulle have haft”
“Det var et barn, jeg ikke fik, som jeg skulle have haft”
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”D<strong>et</strong> <strong>var</strong> <strong>et</strong> <strong>barn</strong>, <strong>jeg</strong> <strong>ikke</strong> <strong>fik</strong>, <strong>som</strong> <strong>jeg</strong> <strong>skulle</strong> <strong>have</strong> <strong>haft”</strong>.<br />
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It has taken many years for her sadness and loss about the baby to shift from the front to the<br />
back of her mind.<br />
Everyone coped with bereavement differently - <strong>som</strong>e women wanted to g<strong>et</strong> pregnant again to fill<br />
'the void' left by the baby they had lost, others couldn't face another pregnancy in case the<br />
same thing happened again (see 'Deciding wh<strong>et</strong>her to <strong>have</strong> another baby'). Several women<br />
had gone away on holiday or for a short break with their partners, though not everyone found<br />
this was helpful.<br />
Many women derived great comfort from their families and also from the strength of their<br />
relationship with a partner or husband. Several women who had gone through the termination<br />
many years ago said that other life events that had happened to them since the termination had<br />
helped them see the loss of the baby in a wider perspective.<br />
Reference: E<br />
Describes feeling in limbo afterwards and says that it had helped her to g<strong>et</strong> away from home for<br />
a while.<br />
However, <strong>som</strong>e women's feelings of loss carried on for <strong>som</strong>e time - and also after the birth of<br />
another baby - and several had needed professional help and support. Generally women had<br />
asked the GP for advice, or been offered help by the midwife. Other women had arranged<br />
counselling and other kind of therapy for themselves (see 'Counselling and other kinds of<br />
support'). Several women who had ended a pregnancy within the last two years said they were<br />
still finding life without the baby extremely difficult.<br />
Reference: F<br />
Still feels she hasn't come to terms with her guilt about the baby's death which happened two<br />
years' ago.<br />
Reference: G<br />
She can remember everything about her baby who died less than a year ago, and still thinks<br />
about him every day.<br />
In the year following the termination, most women we talked to had experienced <strong>som</strong>e periods<br />
when they felt particularly low. Some women said they had asked themselves, 'Why me?', or<br />
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