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PARTNERSHIP
you may have to admit that you have needs and
desires that your partner cannot meet.
When is it no longer constructive to work on the
relationship?
Arguments are good as long as you stay productive.
Once an argument becomes personal, the
line has already been crossed. From there it is very
difficult to find a way back. For example, when the
partner tries to exert pressure and control using
insults and humiliation. Or they make difficult
demands such as: prove your love for me by doing
something specific or by not doing it. For example,
if you let me see all of your text messages, I will
know that you love me.
That‘s the wrong way to approach it. If someone
feels they have to impose a condition on another
that violates their privacy and dignity, it is no longer
about the relationship. It is about exercising control.
As soon as such a humiliation happens in a relationship,
an argument is no longer worthwhile.
Humiliation is felt very individually. What is your
advice if you are unsure whether your partner
has gone too far?
Knowing yourself is the most important thing. And
the willingness to be aware of the things that are
important to you. Then it is also much easier to
formulate the expectations of the partner. The better
I know myself and the more I am at peace with
myself, the easier it is to have a relationship with
another person. You can also use an argument as
an opportunity to work on yourself and find out
what triggered this problem in the relationship.
What is my role in the relationship? How did we
get to this point? However, you can also get to this
point by simply not saying “stop” a year ago.
Do you have a few more tips to prevent things
from getting that far in the first place?
You should never stop working on yourself. But it is
not enough to just eliminate your own mistakes. Try
to optimize yourself and make your own strengths
stronger. Always work on yourself and on the relationship
with positive motivation. In a partnership
you have to put yourself first. There are situations
where you take a step back to help your partner.
But in general you always have to make sure that in
everyday life you are in the best shape to be a good
partner. Both physically and mentally. (ts,mb)
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Domestic violence
Domestic violence is when
people engage in or threaten to
commit physical, psychological
or sexual violence within an existing
or dissolved family, marital
or marriage-like relationship.
In the event of an acute threat,
please call the police directly
on 110.
Men who have been affected by
domestic or sexual violence, for
example, can call the toll-free
number (0800) 1239900.
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