CODEPENDENCE - DEAN AMORY
PERSONALITY DISORDER, CODEPENDENCE, RELATIONSHIPS, PSYCHOLOGY, LOVE, MATRIMONY, LIFE, LIVE,
PERSONALITY DISORDER, CODEPENDENCE, RELATIONSHIPS, PSYCHOLOGY, LOVE, MATRIMONY, LIFE, LIVE,
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health disorder that they are not in touch with their own needs at all. This is not only<br />
unhealthy for the family member but for the person with the disorder as well.<br />
You must learn to get your life back and as the author Melodie Beattie says "lovingly<br />
detaching." You are not on this earth to take care of your partner or your daughter or<br />
your cousin, etc. Let me repeat that. You are not on this earth to take care of your<br />
partner or your daughter or your cousin, etc.<br />
That may be a part of your life and a very important part of your life. But that is not the<br />
only reason you are on this earth and that is not the only thing that defines you. You<br />
must find out who you are and become that person once again. You must be that person<br />
you were before you knew "that person" and have that person in your life as well.<br />
What does it feel like if you have been around someone strongly<br />
codependent?<br />
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I felt violated. My boundaries were crossed. I felt extremely angry and upset. I felt<br />
manipulated and power was taken away from me that belonged to me.<br />
I had always heard that 50% of chemically dependent people are codependent. My<br />
husband who attends AA says the joke there is that it is 100%. So I do not know what<br />
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Let's review some basic codependency behaviors.<br />
What do Codependents try to do? Control others or situations.<br />
Do they really think they can control others? Yes.<br />
Can anyone ever control others? No<br />
Do they cross our boundaries? Yes<br />
Do they mind their own business? No<br />
Do they manipulate? Yes<br />
Do they know what is best for you? Yes<br />
What do they say when we get angry with them for crossing our boundaries?<br />
I was only trying to help.<br />
What are some reasons they do this?<br />
To avoid their own issues. To get their mind off of themselves.<br />
What does Al-Anon and CoDa tell them to do?<br />
Butt out! Mind their own business. Get the focus off of them and back on their selves.<br />
What do codependents do when they can't control you? Get angry.
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