CODEPENDENCE - DEAN AMORY
PERSONALITY DISORDER, CODEPENDENCE, RELATIONSHIPS, PSYCHOLOGY, LOVE, MATRIMONY, LIFE, LIVE,
PERSONALITY DISORDER, CODEPENDENCE, RELATIONSHIPS, PSYCHOLOGY, LOVE, MATRIMONY, LIFE, LIVE,
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What addictive behaviour were you struggling with?<br />
A codependent friendship.<br />
How did it start?<br />
Six years ago I met a person I thought would be my best friend for life. I was going<br />
through a huge transition in my life coming home from college and having to start over in<br />
building friendships. Although I graduated, all my friends were still in college and my old<br />
friends from high school had all changed. It was hard for me to identify and connect<br />
again with my old friends.<br />
I connected with a few of my old friends<br />
from high school, and through one of<br />
them I met Anna.<br />
At the beginning of our friendship Anna<br />
and I connected really well and we had a<br />
lot of fun. We spent a lot of time<br />
together right from the<br />
beginning. She too had just come home<br />
from college and didn't know anyone.<br />
We started hanging out 2-3 times a<br />
week, but I started calling her more and<br />
more.<br />
By the second year of our friendship we<br />
hung out every night and were<br />
communicating thoroughly every day.<br />
We became inseparable to the point that people thought we were sisters. Neither of<br />
us had been in an unhealthy friendship before and because we shared a deeper<br />
dimension of life in our friendship (faith and spirituality), we never thought our<br />
attachment to each other was unhealthy.<br />
But, over time, I started becoming more manipulative over her and placed higher<br />
and higher expectations on her. I figured that if she knew me best she should know how<br />
to treat me perfectly.<br />
She was the one that I thought had to give me what I needed and I would get upset if I<br />
didn't get it. I demanded a lot from her and she complied most of the time with<br />
what I needed.<br />
What kinds of needs did you want her to meet?<br />
I was really looking for Anna to meet my emotional needs. I wouldn't go to God first at<br />
all. I thought about praying but the first person I thought of was Anna.<br />
Ultimately, I thought Anna could help me and pray with me. We were there for each<br />
other spiritually, but only in a selfish way.