CODEPENDENCE - DEAN AMORY

The 12 Steps to Recovery for
Codependents
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Cruse
1. We acknowledge and accept that we
are powerless in controlling the lives of
others, and that trying to control others
makes our lives unmanageable.
2. We have come to believe that a
power greater than ourselves can
restore enough order and hope in our
lives to move us to a growth
framework.
3. We make a decision to turn our
lives over to this power to the best of
our ability, and honestly accept that
taking responsibility for ourselves is the
only way growth is possible.
4. We make an inventory of ourselves,
looking for our mental, emotional,
spiritual, physical, volitional, and social
assets and liabilities. We look at what
we have, how we use it, and how we
can acquire what we need.
5. Using this inventory as a guide, we
admit to ourselves, to God as we
understood him, and to other caring
persons, the exact nature of what is
within that is causing ourselves pain.
6. We give to God as we know him all
former pain, hurt, and mistakes,
resentments and bitterness, anger, and
guilt. We trust that we can let go of the
hurt that we cause and receive.
7. We can ask for help, support, and
guidance and be willing to take
responsibility for ourselves and to
others.
8. We begin a program of living
16 Steps for Discovery and
Empowerment
From: Many Roads, One Journey;
Moving Beyond the 12 Steps by {
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1. We affirm we have the power to
take charge of our lives and stop being
dependent on substances or other
people for our self-esteem and security.
2. We come to believe that God /the
Goddess /Universe /Great Spirit /Higher
Power awakens the healing wisdom
within us when we open ourselves to
that power.
3. We make a decision to become our
authentic Selves and trust in the
healing power of Truth.
4. We examine our beliefs, addictions,
and dependent behavior in the context
of living in a hierarchical, patriarchal
culture.
5. We share with another person and
the Universe all those things inside of
us for which we feel shame and guilt.
6. We affirm and enjoy our strengths,
talents, and creativity, striving not to
hide these qualities to protect other's
egos.
7. We become willing to let go of
shame, guilt, and any behavior that
keeps us from loving ourSelves and
others.
8. We make a list of people we have
harmed and people who have harmed
us, and take steps to clear out negative
energy by making amends and sharing
our grievances in a respectful way.
9. We express love and gratitude to
others, and increasingly appreciate, the