Pornography: Men Possessing Women, by: Andrea ... - Feminish

ual aggressors vs. adults, ” where force was undoubtedly andabsolutely used, one finds that[t]he phenomenon of force or threat in sexual relationsbetween adults is beclouded by various things. In the firstplace, there may be the ambivalence of the female who issexually aroused but who for moral or other reasons does notwish to have coitus. She is struggling not only against the malebut against herself, and in retrospect it is exceedingly easy forher to convince herself that she yielded to force rather than topersuasion. This delusion is facilitated by the socially approvedpattern for feminine behavior, according to which the woman issupposed to put up at least token resistance, m urmuring, “No,no” or “We m ustn’t! ” Any reasonably experienced male haslearned to disregard such minor protestations, and the naivemale who obeys his partner’s injunction to cease and desist isoften puzzled when she seems inexplicably irritated by hiscompliance. 89N ot only did she probably want it all along—being unwilling onlyfor moral reasons, which do not count, or because she is inhibited,which does not count—but an accusation against the male—whereforce was clearly used— indicates her struggle with herself. T hepresumption is that the woman will refuse and that the man will, asa m atter of course, use force, and that her resistance and herunwillingness are meaningless except insofar as they indicatemoralistic values without which she would not object or a hidden,internal struggle because she really wants to do what she resistsdoing.Also, the use of force against the adult female, even where the useof force is acknowledged by definition of the category, is “beclouded”by the inherent, never-dormant masochism of women:. . . there is a certain masochistic streak in many women: theyoccasionally desire to be overpowered and treated a littleroughly. It is, after all, very ego-satisfying for a female to feelshe is so sexually attractive that the male cannot maintain socialrestraints and reverts to “caveman” tactics. Indeed, somewomen complain that their partners are too gentle: “W hy doyou always ask me, why don’t you just take me sometimes? ”90