A Readiness to Give and Receive Advice andInstructionPeople who give advices are not generally ready to receiveinstructions. <strong>The</strong>y freely advise others, unasked. Peoplegive lots <strong>of</strong> advices. If a person is giving many adviceswithout being asked, note that he is not ready to learn.Mahabharata speaks, “Giving advice is the easiest thing,receiving instruction is the most difficult thing.” Peoplewith a tendency to always advise people, are walking intothe areas <strong>of</strong> pride. People, who receive instructions, walkinto the areas <strong>of</strong> humbleness. It is a great responsibilityto advise, it is not a privilege. So, don’t advise withoutbeing asked! If someone asks you, then don’t be anxiousto give advice! But you have to wait, because a personmay have asked you casually or he may have asked yousincerely. Don’t immediately answer; wait for a while, butwith a readiness to answer. You should have the readinessto give advice, but you should not just advise. That isthe difference. To be ready to advise when someone asksis a good quality, but to advise in general without beingasked, is not a good quality. Advices are most valuablewhen you have experienced what advice is sought for.When advice is sought with great sincerity, you have aresponsibility to answer. Don’t answer because peopleask you. <strong>The</strong>re are people who like to ask even for verysimple things. If there is an adviser available, people tendto misuse him for everything. “Master, what shall I eattoday? Master, when shall I drink c<strong>of</strong>fee?” You should notadvise to what the other person is capable <strong>of</strong> thinking.I will tell you a story again: <strong>The</strong>re were a father and ason. <strong>The</strong> father was an enlightened man. His name wasVaruna. He had a son, who asked his father, “You are soenlightened a person, you know everything, so tell mewhat is all this creation?” Do you know what the fathersaid? “Meditate and observe!” <strong>The</strong>n the son was ready toreceive the instruction, he did not question again. Manytimes people, who come for advice, and when advice isgiven, they start questioning the advice. So they have notcome for advice, they have come for discussion. Howsubtle it is! But this son was a good son, he meditated.When he meditated and observed he came to his fatherand said, “Father, I have known.” <strong>The</strong>n the father asked,“What did you know?” “All this creation is but matter.”<strong>The</strong> father remained silent. <strong>The</strong>n the son asked, “Whyare you silent, is it yes or no to my answer?” <strong>The</strong> fathersaid, “Yes and no. It is material, no doubt, but it is notonly material. Meditate.” <strong>The</strong>n the son meditated againand said, “Father, all matter came from water.” Whenthe son said like that, the father listened to the son.That is all! To everything that one listens, there is noneed to comment. We see the modern man, he has tocomment. Is his comment asked? No one has asked forthe comment.92 93
A small story from out <strong>of</strong> this story: A Master was walkingwith his two disciples during the morning. When theywere walking in the fields, there was the sunrise. <strong>The</strong>Master as well as the two disciples saw the sunrise. Itwas very beautiful. <strong>The</strong>n one disciple said, “What abeautiful sunrise!” <strong>The</strong> Master did not answer; the otherdisciple did not say anything. <strong>The</strong>y came home. <strong>The</strong>Master told the silent one, “Don’t bring the other fellowfor walk tomorrow. He talks too much.” It is beautiful,but should we say that? <strong>The</strong> Master has eyes, perhapsbetter eyes, the other disciple also has eyes. Why did thisdisciple talk? He has a tendency to comment. He has atendency to judge.<strong>The</strong> father in the story has no tendency. When his soninformed, “Matter came out <strong>of</strong> water”, he listened. Nocomment. <strong>The</strong>n the son asked, “What do you say?” <strong>The</strong>father said, “Yes it is so and it is not so. Meditate! Howbeautiful! Every time, when the son finds something,he comes to the father, and the father makes him toput more effort, so that ultimately the son finds thePara Brahman experiencing it. Seeing Para Brahmanis only experiencing or recognising that he is himselfPara Brahman.That is how advice is given with responsibility, andinstruction is also received with responsibility. <strong>The</strong>re is a lot<strong>of</strong> responsibility in advising. <strong>The</strong>re is a lot <strong>of</strong> responsibilitywhen one seeks instruction. Don’t advise because you arejust available and people ask. Because you are availablepeople generally keep asking many things. “Master, whatis CVV doing now?” I heard such questions. People comeand ask me, “What is the work Master Djwhal Khul isdoing now?” Why are they interested in what MasterDjwhal Khul is doing, or Master Kut Humi is doing, orMaster CVV is doing? If I say something, how does ithelp? It only helps curiosity. You know what I used toanswer, when people asked me such questions? I toldthem, “He asked me to tell you to mind your business.” Itis bitter, but it is true. So never answer curious enquiriescoming in the form <strong>of</strong> seeking advice. But, if someone issincere and is burning himself to know, don’t neglect. Ifthere is fiery aspiration to know, give them the clue. Butdon’t be hasty to share all that you know with people whocasually enquire from you. That is where you have to useyour humour and sideline the issue.Likewise, when we seek instruction, are we readyto follow? “A readiness to receive instruction” is what ismentioned in the step. If it is given, are we really readyto follow? If we are not ready to follow, we should notseek instructions. It is irresponsible to seek instructions,if we are not ready to follow. We should think well beforewe seek instruction. We should think well, whom to askfor an instruction. We cannot ask everyone. If we askeveryone, we receive different instructions and we don’tfollow any instruction.94 95
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