Volume 6 - December Ethnicities Magazine

RELATIONSHIP
HOW DARE I BE SUCH A SLACKER, I
THOUGHT FOR A MOMENT?
WHAT HAD I BEEN DOING ALL YEAR?
Believe me, for those who know me, a lot. Yet my
reasonable, sensible mind had to kidnap that other
one, and go over and remember all the many other
things not on that list that I had accomplished, and I
then began to woo zaa and breathed easier.
At that moment, I was reminded of another recent
experience. So there I was this lovely morning on the
ship of my first cruise. As I sat there enjoying breakfast,
I eavesdropped on the conversation of this very
beautiful, positive lady also eating breakfast with
her husband at the next table. First I heard her say-
“Great coffee”. Then- “Delicious omelet”. Next- “Look
at the ocean, what a lovely blue”. Her husband got up
to get them both juice, she asked for a half glass and
when he brought it back, what did she say? “Perfect!”
Said with a smile!
So many of us based on our upbringing, perfectionism,
ambition and diligence are always looking for
what is not good, good enough or bad. Our brains,
our training, and our personalities steer us in that direction.
Oftentimes it is with good intentions perhaps
looking for what needs to be fixed. We do mean well
by wanting to make things better. Yet for many of us,
this at times, carries over from our professional lives,
to our constant critiques of everything and everyone.
Others, our relationships, our children, parents, even
ourselves.
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