Happiful December 2019
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• Emotional loneliness<br />
This can be one of the more<br />
difficult types of loneliness<br />
to understand, as emotional<br />
loneliness comes from<br />
within. Your feelings are not<br />
necessarily the result of losing<br />
someone, or moving – it’s not as<br />
circumstantial as that. One way<br />
to think of it is that something is<br />
missing from your life – rather<br />
than missing something you once<br />
had. Perhaps you are craving new<br />
friendships rather than longing<br />
for old ones.<br />
• Chronic loneliness<br />
Chronic loneliness is often a<br />
by-product of circumstance,<br />
although unlike situational<br />
loneliness it can go on for so<br />
long that it almost becomes a<br />
way of life. As a result, chronic<br />
loneliness, more than any<br />
other type, is closely linked<br />
with mental ill-health and<br />
unhappiness. It’s associated with<br />
depression, sleep problems and<br />
stress, and is thought to be as<br />
harmful to our health as smoking<br />
15 cigarettes a day.<br />
HOW CAN WE OVERCOME<br />
LONELINESS?<br />
Experiencing loneliness can be a<br />
very isolating time. It can lead to a<br />
sense of ‘forgetting’ what we used<br />
to enjoy; forgetting our goals and<br />
not finding meaning in what we<br />
used to find meaningful before.<br />
And it can become a vicious cycle,<br />
particularly where your mental<br />
health is concerned.<br />
You may feel there’s nowhere to<br />
turn, or too scared to seek help.<br />
But there are things we can do to<br />
reclaim our sense of connection.<br />
Here, psychotherapist Brian<br />
shares some simple ways to<br />
combat loneliness.<br />
1. Fight negative feelings with a<br />
positive engagement. This could<br />
be as easy as smiling and saying<br />
hello to someone you pass<br />
on the street – a simple act of<br />
kindness can boost endorphins,<br />
raise morale, and break the<br />
loneliness cycle.<br />
2. Be curious and ask questions.<br />
This can be helpful if you find<br />
small talk difficult, or feel<br />
unable to make connections<br />
easily. Strive for short<br />
conversations that increase<br />
involvement and happiness.<br />
3. Ditch the technology. Embrace<br />
the world around you through<br />
practising mindfulness or<br />
volunteering.<br />
4. Social media is OK in<br />
moderation, but face-to-face<br />
interaction is more enriching.<br />
Going out and meeting<br />
people can create a sense of<br />
commonality.<br />
5. Make positive memories by<br />
doing memorable things and<br />
discovering new places. Why<br />
not make the trip to see a friend<br />
you haven’t seen for a while?<br />
Remember, loneliness is a feeling,<br />
not a permanent fixture in your<br />
life. Whether you feel lonely<br />
occasionally, have been feeling<br />
alone for a while, or it’s been<br />
present for a long time, there are<br />
steps you can take to increase your<br />
sense of connection with others.<br />
Brian Turner is a psychotherapist<br />
and hypnotherapist, who specialises<br />
in providing the best therapeutic care<br />
for anxiety-based conditions. You can<br />
find Brian and more information on<br />
counselling-directory.org.uk