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The Answer Lady invites inquiries from
gentle readers on all manner of relationship
quandaries, matters of the
heart and ethics. If you’d like to send
a query, write to info@exitzero.us. Or,
simply sit back, enjoy a cup of coffee and contemplate
the wisdom herein.
Dear Answer Lady
My boyfriend admitted that he has repeatedly
cheated on me. He says he still loves me
but cannot commit to a “monotonous” relationship.
I am devastated. I didn’t even ask who
these other women were. I couldn’t respond. I
looked at him and went to work. I haven’t seen
him in a week and he hasn’t called. But I know
he will. What do I say? And didn’t he mean
monogamous? — Cheatin’ Heart
Dear Heart
That’s a lot to toss on someone and then
walk away. You have many decisions to make.
Can you deal with an open relationship? It
sounds like you are looking for a monogamous
one. If so, why would you even consider bringing
him — and the pain he inflicts — back into
The Answer Lady
Wise answers to perplexing questions
your life? Also, do you feel worthy of the kind of
love you seek? The Answer Lady hopes you can
say yes. Make that the goal to work toward. The
first step is getting rid of Mr. Wrong. You need
an Autumn Beauty treatment at Cape May
Day Spa to get your chi back in line. Consider
adopting a rescue puppy or kitten from Animal
Outreach to learn about unconditional love. As
to monogamous verses monotony? He knew
what he was saying.
Dear Answer Lady
The usual Christmas morning gathering
my sister hosts every year to open presents
and have brunch is cancelled. Does this mean
I am no longer obligated to buy all her in-laws,
plus my family, a present? PLEASE say yes.
My other siblings do a Pollyanna, but because
I’m single and make a lot of money, my sister
pressures me to buy everyone a gift. I love my
siblings and nieces and nephews, but the rest
of them? Not so much. It’s as if I am being punished
for not having a wife and family of my
own. — Free at Last?
Dear Free
Yes, the Answer Lady thinks your chains
have been cut. Find your own circle of friends
— make your own traditions. Your New Year’s
resolution — expand your horizons, making
your sister’s fete impossible to commit to. As for
buying presents? Of course not. You should’ve
been a part of the Pollyanna. Your sister took
advantage of your good nature. Treat yourself
to a delicious pastry from Madison’s Bakery
and enjoy your new-found freedom.
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