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The Answer Lady invites inquiries from<br />
gentle readers on all manner of relationship<br />
quandaries, matters of the<br />
heart and ethics. If you’d like to send<br />
a query, write to info@exitzero.us. Or,<br />
simply sit back, enjoy a cup of coffee and contemplate<br />
the wisdom herein.<br />
Dear Answer Lady<br />
A person has been bugging me for the<br />
last month on Facebook about meeting<br />
somewhere. Where would you suggest? He<br />
wants to take me out on New Year’s Eve, but I<br />
don’t do New Year’s Eve and I especially don’t<br />
do it with someone I don’t know. With this<br />
COVID scare I don’t know what would be open<br />
after New Year’s because that’s when I told him<br />
I’d meet up. Any suggestions? — Perplexed<br />
Dear Perplexed<br />
Why not make a luncheon date for New<br />
Year’s Eve afternoon? There are several places<br />
which are COVID sensitive and offer an<br />
excellent menu or an excellent view. Fins, the<br />
Mad Batter, the Blue Pig or the Lobster House.<br />
This accomplishes several goals at once. You<br />
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Wise answers to perplexing questions<br />
get to meet him in a public place, enjoy a meal<br />
without the worry of New Year’s Eve revelers<br />
breathing all over you and you can safely say,<br />
“Yes, I did go out on a date and started the New<br />
Year with a new slate. P.S. If you make the date<br />
after the holiday — the suggestions would be<br />
the same. Happy New Year!!<br />
Dear Answer Lady<br />
I started dating a man two years ago.<br />
He soon started talking about marriage but<br />
said we had to wait until he finished law<br />
school, which he finished earlier this month.<br />
Christmas has passed with no engagement<br />
ring. I’m 33 and want to have children. I trusted<br />
him and now feel I was lied to. I saw a letter on<br />
his desk for a job offer in Chicago. He knows I<br />
can’t relocate because of my job, my parents<br />
and my love of Cape May. I am so hurt. I’m<br />
waiting for him to bring this all up but so far —<br />
crickets. What should I do? — Devastated<br />
Dear Devastated<br />
He may be weighing his decision and is<br />
having a hard time himself. Your silence is fearbased.<br />
Fear that it might be over or that your<br />
chance has passed. He might have changed his<br />
mind but isn’t it time you brought all this out<br />
into the open? Whatever his personal goals<br />
are, you clearly have some of your own and<br />
this needs to be openly discussed. Don’t allow<br />
yourself to put your fate in someone else’s<br />
hands. A quiet dinner at the Sunset Supper<br />
Club is an opportunity to tell him how you feel<br />
and ask what his intentions are. Knowing the<br />
truth is better than shirking in the dark.<br />
December 30, 2021 EXIT ZERO Page 47
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