ZIP DOBYNS (Astrology) - Film Score Rundowns

quincunxes show the danger of pulling apart, more so for the quincunx because an
opposition is also a natural partnership--both ends of a polarity need each other (they
have complimentary qualities). The conjunction is the strongest and most cohesive of all
aspects. It does tend to draw people together, but the nature of the planets will determine
whether it will likely be an easy interaction or a conflict.
For example, if two planets are conjunct between the two charts that are normally
square each other such as Saturn and Mars ruling Capricorn and Aries, that's usually
experienced as more stress. Certain combinations are particularly associated with
emotional relationships such as Sun, Moon, Venus--the interpersonal areas. Mercury and
Uranus deal with intellectual, rational relationships. They are helpful because
you can understand the other person and communicate and move towards acceptance (the
air qualities). Saturn and Vesta represent the work ethic. Saturn-Vesta conjunctions
between charts may be fine if you're working together. If it's not a working relationship,
then it takes some care in handling. You have the risk of either the critical, work
attitude being displaced in the relationship so that instead of just looking at the flaws in a
job and trying to do a better job, we look for the flaws in each other in the relationship
that makes for an uncomfortable relationship.
Saturn brings in the power/parent issue. If both people can take turns being
parent to each other, that may be fine. Saturn-Moon conjunctions often do some mutual
parenting, but if either one is trying to be the sole parent and the other is playing the
child, eventually the person playing the child role is going to resent that type of
relationship. Occasionally you'll find instances where the wife is perfectly happy being
the child and letting her husband take care of her. If she wants that and he wants that,
there may be no problems at all. So you have to come down to what the person wants
and what the person is happy with.
One object lesson was a woman's chart I remember I did years ago. She had a lot
of power struggle potential in her chart involving 7th and 8th houses. I mentioned that
one of the dangers was displacing it into relationships that are meant to be harmonious,
like ending up fighting with her husband. She thought about that and said, "Yeah. My
husband and I fight a lot. We enjoy it! When everything gets too calm, we both
get bored, so one of us starts a ruckus and then we kiss and make up." So if you're
enjoying it, then it's not a problem. It's only if it's happening and you're wondering why
this is happening and that you don't like it, then it's a problem. So it's a personal decision
on what you want for your lifestyle that determines what will be tolerable or
intolerable. We can't dictate anybody else's lifestyle by our standards.
Now: The second form of comparing is to put each person's planets in the other
person's houses. You have two charts with two wheels, an inner wheel and an outer
wheel. That can be very revealing. You may, for instance, find that for one person the
other person's planets fall in the 5th house which is experienced as very exciting and
stimulating and creative. Maybe the other person's planets fall largely in the other
person's 12th house, and he or she wants something more seductive, romantic, mysterious
and gentle. This 5th house excitement may be seen as rather jarring, not pleased with it.
Questions to be asked by a couple are: What is the primary understanding of the
relationship? Are they working on the same overall goals and directions in life? Above
all else, for a relationship to endure, they have to have some basic sharing of ultimate
beliefs, goals and values. If one person has her whole life totally wrapped up in kids, and
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