Articles Book III - Pg 1-117 (Adoptees) - triadoption

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' NP man says adoptee s .should be mature':: when
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'when an ado tee begins a &arch
for hls natura parents, lhere are
wme aUoru he should ask himself,
3 : aceor& to adopleegearcher .6)pb
3. . QpeUof North Platte.
i? O'ikll savs hla &en Anna &rt&[y
dois people to makh the
statement, "Hem I am. I'm wilihg
?. to makc contact with you if your will-
? hg to make contact wlth me."
?, . The North Platte pub\lcaUon, which
A has ken htnunenhl ln at leaat 12
. reunions, euables aeachen to make
. t h d v a known without Infringing
.? on Ux, rlvacy of either party.
a8visa would.be searchen to be
mature before they begin their
4 wrcb.
'I: '."I Ullnk you have to ask youmlf a
&. whole bunch of quwUons regarding
what arc you looklng for. U you're
,j~,lookIng for another family, forget
2' - *' @Dell says.
*$:,?He advises the young adult to think
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j Mcc before emburking an a search. .
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: ."I'm not sure when I w u 18 or 21
&at I could have handled a reunion
dth my nalural pnrenb." O'Dell
mys. "Can~pu emotionally hnndle
U~lstypcof ng."
In his work wlth his newsletter,
O'W says he hns dlsmvered lhat females
witally begin to get curious
about sarchlng around the ages of 25
(0835. For men. Its around the age3 of
w.
O'Dell flb lnlo those overages.
"It really stnrted hugging me when
1 wa, oboul 40 ycnrs old:' he snys.
The idofit* says his &a,m for
scarchlng h Ma natural curiaralty. . '
"The main Lhing h Lo get Infonna-
Uon about them-physical characterlaUcs,
behavlord patterns. what they
did, what klnd of people they were."
O'Dell is not Interested In a ''&by
and lenry" rrunfon. ...
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' . "lld ' w e cb d~scoss 8eoedob, '
family background, chnraclerlstla.
To me they are important. I have
thm childrcn and one grandchild.
There are biological characteristics
Ulat come from me Umt th& people
have a rlght to know about."
' For an adopk or blrth parent b e
glnning a search, O'Dell ssys there
are four baslc factors that help In the
search - date of birth, placeof blrth,
race and sex.
O'Dell says hls own information
about hteblrth molhu-a 17. ear+lP
college student who becnme I!, volved
wlth a callege profeuor- plus the in-
formation an- hls birth 'certiflcale
could make it e m for him to locate
her.
"I could no back In a week and flnd
her," he sGs. But that approach Just
might "tear things apart for her. I
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lust can't do it."
Inatcad, the searcher prefers to
rernaln respectfully waiting, ho ing
lhol one day hls mother, or one ofher
rclnlives or friends, discoven his
=arch and rnukw contact wlth him.
O'Dell warns (bat a search for a
blrth pnrcnt con be a traumatic expe-
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