Articles Book III - Pg 1-117 (Adoptees) - triadoption

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from ad in 'NP publication
A mother in ~aahlngtdn found her Her search was not onesided. "I really dldn't think my daughte~
daughter in Californln Uuaugh a Ne- , Her dau hkr DlMe became In ui- Uked me at all. I felt rwlly bad and
braaka connection. sltlve at lfe age of 11. She md \er told myself to just leave it at that!,
Mar amt Slder of White Salmon, adoptive parents made contact with However, her hope for a relation-
&G*-fie~munion with her 1% . the adoptlon a ency wdvlng arlght to shlp wlth her daughter dldn't dle.
year-old daughter Diane waa the rlvacy with & e Intention of contact-' Mother's Day cnme and went. -- .
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"direct rwult" of her search ad in g her mother. Although Mrs. Slder "I kept thinlrlng, gn, she might
ila Opm Arm Qwrlnly, a newslet- also inquired with the a ency, no call. l nalted end walted!'
ter for adoptees and birth arents effort waa made to put $e two in The anxious mother attemped anubl~shed
by olDsll. or Nprth touch with each other.
other contact. She cnlled her daughter
w. SIder,. who gave bl& at the ed. A searcher who aubts P ~ON same empty feelings. She told herself
17, mys she had no eholce in the I? tracing their child or parent came to be patlent. -a : . :*,. ,s.
a!option or her daughter. The dcci- across Sider's ad and Med the . . ' '
slon was her family*s.. ,:; mother end daughter. The two bnd a
reunion liwt Aprll. . - .
"Therewas an In my Happ endings always happen in
life all years@ felry des.But not always hreal IEe.
Whether she wri8 &Ive Or dead. That "It was kind of hard." Mn. Slder
mid ~ ~ to be e filled." d Mrs. Sider malls. "She grew up in such a dlf.
says of her feelings. ferent world Urn I'm fmm.
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She rrcaUs that, at the Ume, no one
her ulth the Idea that she .*I wt thonght &eld bog eafh other
to his unknown mother .
hatte. - Then laat March. the dr&e hap one day to talk but hung up with the .. . . _. .
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dght able to kee her babE In- a d old onto eoch other. No word3
stead, 'she says, was bad. wpuld be necessary and love would
gered" to give up her child by justnow!.
penomel at the malemlty home. Inatead, she says, the rmnlon was a
"I'm sure I would hah Lent the delicate md sensltlve event. - .- - . . . -. --.
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ehiid;~Itw& kmbly dlfndt Lbr me "It war a blg shak for her ... nl- yean, Mn. Sldcr says she qu, tns
My highest regnrds, .,
to slgn the a rs." she says. The though I've known that I've loved her the rl tnw of those who push for M
Your Child .
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wont part o g ving up her baby, she for years," Mrs. Slder says. She snys unw mother b glve up her chlld.
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adds, waa not howlng where or how If she had to do It over, she would ap "If the people on the other end of ,
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pmach the reunion differently.
$'flm1t-L6~ .-I werJr filrad
her chlld was. this only hew what they do to those. J..--. -. 0- ,'r)Es;
"It -. wn. .- Lno . . much .- -.. all -. st -. once." . -. LnvolVed!'
wr at YOU. I just knew I'd Mer a vlsit to her daughter's home -
8$ her and never stop loaklng. in Aprll, Mrs. Slder said she came ;:;
There were so many emotions." home dmined.
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