Articles Book III - Pg 1-117 (Adoptees) - triadoption

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Conllnucd From Pale On* "XclnR lathcr dldn'l lasclnalc ntc: "I harc in bclicvc lhc lIn~lnR ol ll was
hcrscll and lh~n knocks hencll oul reach , Thc malcrnal lccllng Is much, much jusl latc. The?-s no olhcr explanallon lor
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Ing Ihcm. slronflcr than thc polcrnal." , ,'
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But her marrlajic lo Blll and lhc arrival '1 Once aRaln she found more rcslrlancc: uWltcn wc werc flrlna back Honic on lltc
olfhrcc sons or her own kcpl hcr from dr. Fmm lhc orphanage, fmln nuntend cvcn lonc.'; sald her huibond. 0111, "1 sold In
vollng lull allcntlon In hcr scarch Illrough . lmm IltcSalvallon Army. . .
lor, 'Thrrc's such a "low on )sur lacr,)nu
I Lhr *SO> and rarly 'RO.9. Shc dld, howcvcr.
don'lcvcn nwd a planc lo fly."'
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personos )jlclj,,lc I,, flllcd 11 would bc lnecc~~ralc lo say, huwrr'r.
lo(s~I lrll~n and talk 1oan)'onc and ' momcnIs 01 happlnrrr wl~h a ICW pltlnlls.
cvcryonc aboul hcrscarch.
lhnl she was lmmcdlnlcly accrplcd by her
Uul one can cope wilh thc knowlcduc or '*new lamlly."Tl~crc war a lack st acccpt
"lvs 111 1 lalkcd aboul," she admils lacls. It lslhc unknown that can be so dlr
WIV. ,," '.. .. q :: tresslng.. : . ' . ' . . .
ancc by some and a frclln~ lhal she lrns
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atlcmptlnp to cash in on a sntall Inbcrl.
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llcr blggcsl brcaklhrough came in the '. '. pabyou~~~hts,~oo .' . lance #I lhc lasl poalblc momrnl. Bul hhc
1970s whcn shc,rccelvcd access, lo her
has slncc had somc vcry plcaranl la~tllly
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' Mnh rccorda from Prnnsylvanla. From
"Pmplc lalk about the nced lo.prolccl rcunlons wllh aomc 01 hcr ncw bmlhrrs.
thosc rccords she lcarned hcr molhcr's Ulc rl~hls of the nalural molhcr. Bul I say. aunlsand uncles and hcr hopes arc hluh
nrmc. her lather's namc and the fact that
whalabbul the rlghls ollhc baby? Thc blg lhal lhcy Plll conllnuc.
her molher had had two olhcr chlldrcn be. gc~tcrroris In ihcllnallly of all ofll, "Whcn I flrsl saw my brolher.~ and als.
lorn her. Shc also learned l c was classl- '"Yes, Ihcre was a sllgma lo adopllon In lcrs, all I wanlcd lodo was hug lhcm all!'
ncd as "llleplllmale." .. '
Ihcpasl, but I wanlcd lo find my mother. I "She was not lo be dlrcouragcd. Shc ncv.
"Rack ln'thc 'j0s lhcre wcti no soclal
don'l l ~l llke.l'h r disgraceful lhlng lo tr gave up. She has lncrcdlblc dcicrmlna.
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suumrls lo hcln a woman In hcr slluallon
know. , . .,
llon and spunk," hcr husband sald.
"I don'l
hilhc sllamd or bearing m
Bcr enylhlng wrong wllh what.
IIIc~lllmatc "Studlcs have shown lhal adoplees more
happened," hc sdld. It's amazlnfl lhc avcr.
chlld was somclhlnR lo be hldden to pm
ollcn than no1 have lnsccurlly complexes;:
whclmlng plcasurc somc adoplcc~ gel aul
IccI the cnllre lamll~."shesafd. I would lully asrce.wllh (hat."
allindlng lhclr parcnls."
'The blrlh rccords Rave Mn. Rcnncll. .: itcr ra~hil dl4 in 1077 rl~d III~I.JUS~ . "To llse ;-d dlc never knnwlng shot
namcs and clllcs and she lmmcdlalrly be madc the urga lu flnd hcr molhcr lhal happened lo yourci~lld has lo be nnc of thc ,
kan rcscarchlnp lclcphonc books lor passl. much slmngcr, "I. l~I1 llmc was runnlng J
blr clucs. And In 1071, she lucalcd her la. out!' . :>. .
worsl loriurcs on earth." sald hlrs, Rrn.
.ncII. "I kncw two wonten who uovc ap
lhcrln Pllhburph: . . ...
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.: And at that palnl In hcr search; shc uol.' thclr chlldrcn and lhey wcrc allcctcd 6s I1
Aller sotho phonc convcrsallonr and an lucky. In 1014, shc had lalkcd over the , all lhclr IIvcs. They would hnvc bctw
cxchan~c or lcllcrs. she was invltcd oul to phonc lo somc peoplc who had (he same hclncd 1l lky cbuld, havc mcl lhclr
mwl the man. "lle never knew my , lasl namc as hcr molher, bul had no1 told chlldrcn!'
molhcr hod become pregnant and hc was' lhcm lhc rcal reason why. bhc.))qdcd:la Dy the tlmc shc round her nalurol
really qulle proud to lcam I exlaled. Ile flnd lhls woman, i. !:;'; . . t ' ' ': , molhcr. her adonllrc molhcr had dlcd
yas busllng wllh prldc!' . . ., . ..
'mere was some rollow.up to I~CCBII. bui I
alsn, ailhouih the woman kncw or her
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. A Brooch, a Fa= '. . .. It lcd nowhcre. Nowi in early 1018 she dc.
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. c~dcd 10 call lhcm dgoln, oq~y,th~d:~imc :
"Shc knew aboul It and was l~appy I was
Bul unlorlunalcly not wllh Informallon.
.dalnu 11, allhoufih shc war sorry I hadn't
lclnp them,lhe IWlh, dYou an ek~lI~
was vogue Obnut why her
round hcr. hly adnpllve porcnlr wcrc sllll
lol or guls whcn you dp,tlds, y?u,yally ,
lcll hcr flrsl husband lo RO wllh hlm. re. : do,"s,,csald, , . , . ,, ...
orlmc In mv lorc, bul I could love lhc111
me abotll how the two of thcm mcl and ' .. , : '[,.,' 'I ,,
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ihcn crentt~nlly spllt up. Ilc alsosuggcs~cd
~ovad by ~ lofy .!
, , "I wasn't motlvalcd In my scorch by
lhal Ellsabclhslop hrrwarch.
T~IS lime tho pop~e site ca~tcd w're lovc. llorv ran anyone lovc or hole.solllc.
Ilc dld. howcrcr. ullc hcr a bmoeh wIIL moved by hcr slory and elarlcd In work on .,
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sou don'lcrcn know?"
l~rr molhcr'$ plclurc lnsldr. "I! was my hcr bcl~all. I! look a fcw wccks, bnl. llnnlly Now lhrrc arr no li~orc lcllcrr. no 111urr
flnl Iwk al a facc. I rescmblcd hcrqulle a succcss. And wllh It ihc concurri@nl bad t3M.a.mnnlh pl~onc bllls, no more fruslra.
bil. . , , ncwsolhar moIhbr'8 dealh In Cleveland.' Ilon.
"I have lo ns5unlr hi3 tovc~, her, s ~ Che C 1 ' ,q~ during February blizzard, : RI now shc wants lo llnd sonlc was lo
kept 1h.c bmoch lor I2 yean.
but I had lo go lo tho wake. It would be ihc i wrltc a book and tell poplc abonl hcr unu.
S~IC also managed lo walk the hoSpl~~l .last lime I would ace a facc. I sufd, 'l'm : sual rnd fasrlnnllng rlory. Shc dorsn'l
mrrldors whcrn sltc was born and vlsi~cd .coming If I have ld walk on snowshoc~s."' I know exactly IIII~V lo do It, bul glvcn hcr (he ~~PIIU~PRC wtlcrc she for a Thc cxpcrlcncc of seeing hcr molhor a( track record lor dclcrmlnnllon, Il llgurcs ,
shorl whllc.
the wakc was slntply "lncrcdlbla," she shc'll llnd a way.
''1 lrll llkr a nrurc. pul.lo~g1~1brr penon. says. "TIIc rangc or cnlolloltr I lcll wllcn I "Flndlng hci cleared cvrr)'ll~lna." sllc
Ilwasllkcl~nlla burdrn~akcnofl!' ' . a ' lookcd el hcr locp, 1' lace or a lolol uald. "For lhc Ilrsl Iln~c In my lllc I could
Bul It dldn'l eomplclcly sollsfy hcr, slhngcr. I1 was Incrcdlblc. :"!a'
really hcar n~usic!'
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