Articles Book III - Pg 1-117 (Adoptees) - triadoption

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reem finds mom after 3-month hunt
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Dy Jncqucllnc V. Jogel
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. : . , A lccn.ngcr hcro was lucliy. Aflcr scnrclllng
I for lhrce nronlhs, whlch scc~~red llkc nn clernlly
.. Lo hlm, hc round lhc.woman alro borc hlm.
Shc was llvlng only n lcw miles away. flu1
.tho slcps hc look to llnd her nllen were dlsorcan.
lzcd anrl rlsky, I1 no1 downrl~lll sncoky.
Uvcry ycnr thousands of adoplccs hcgln
searching lor lhclr nalurnl parcnls. Scnlcd blrlh
reconls and clmcd adopllon agcncy, film oflcn.
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lrustralc IIlclr clforln.
Goma cnloy su~'itul rchnlonr.' 0U1cn flnd
:'thclr naltrrnl pnrcnls but arc forced to sclllc lor
: llmllcd or no conlnct allrr lhc llmt mecllng. f'or
,;.nyl adcplcca, howcvcr, lhc senrch Is lulllc bc-
.;cause thc pnrcnb have dl& or lhrlr chlldren run'
Pout 01 Ume, moncy and oplirnlsm. :':' .
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.: Thc tan, whom we shall call James Wllson,
4 was pul up lor adopllon by hla moUlcr &rough a
; private agctrcy. Shc "rlgncd on sqrecmcnt saylng
' she wantcd'no rcsponslblllty lot me," bc sald.
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..- ~nd& Olrlo law, adopllon recork arc sealed
and arn nvallnblc lor lnsl~ecllon only npon the
dlrccllon 01 n prolu!e Judgc. . : ,
."We glipc a comrnllmcnt Lo the fnmlly that
wo won't glvc out lnfornrallon on them," abld
Mnry flardcn, chlld care sapcrvisor at Chlldrcn's
Servlcc!, 1001 Buron nd., a prlvale rdcption
agency. . ,. ' ,
Adoplcrs cnnnat bo glvcn lhci real bltlh cer-
Ilflcnlcs,. namcs, dales of Irlrthplaccs. "If ll~cy
wanl to knosv lhrlr mdlcnl history (such ns Ute
epnsslbllity of hcradlbry dlqaoses), ae cnn only tell . .
you whsl 8hc (lhc molhcrl fold us. That's all we.
know," Ms. narden sold. ,
I1 pnrcnlr Inter call and say 11's all rlghl lor
tho chlldrcn lo conlnet lltcm, llren lhd agcncy lrlcs'
lo arrnngc n mccllng, ahc naid. "Bul most parcnls
call lo bc rcnvsurcd IhaL Ihclr chlldren will, hot
mtno and look lor lhcnr."
A barcnucrnlic sllp nllowcd Wilson to sco hlr
blrlh ccrllllcnlc. Ilc mos lold lhnt all blrlh ccrlilicaks
arc on lllc In Colu~nbus nt thc 1)cporlmcnt
01 Henlllt n11d Vllal Slnllsllcs. Ilc aald be nnlcd I1
. "lor ldcnlllicnllon purposm." A clurk acclderrlirlly
nllowcd hlnr lo scc hlg blrlh cerlllicalo, i111d lrc
Icnrncd his tno1lrcr:s rnnlden nrmc nntl an
address. . . . , .
Tho Senrcllers-Intern'l . Ref . Fil
Wllsdn nlso dlscohrcd Itla molllcr's lrotne 1
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ilnlc. flc plckcd sovcrnl clllcs lhcre nnd, ltslng
lclcphonc dlrcclorlc.c, nladc n llnt 01 cvcryonc In I
those clllcr wllh hcr sotnc li~at natnc, hoplng lo .
conL?ct a rclatlvc.
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Wllson dld conbcl the owner ol lhc hortsc
lislcd n3 hls mother's sddrcss nl lhn llmo ho was :
born. Utl!vccn lhc owner nnd n rclnllvo on hl~ llzl, 1
Irc lucalcd a Irlcnd who had kcpi 111 loi~clr cvilh hls
molhcr. Ilo vcrlllcd a ncw nddrcss wltlr a
nclghbor.
Whcn he conlacld hls mollrcr, ~lrc unsn'l
shocked. WlLPon sald, bul rho wns vcry cc~rlour
ahoul how he had found llcr and how hc had farcd
over tho ycars. '
"Sho answered some ol my qucsllons nnd I
answered somo of bcrs:' Wilson mid. "Shc sald
every now and lhcn, rapcelnlly nrollnd nip bl?h. '
day, aho would wondrr llow 1 wan."
Ms. Barden 01'~hildrcn'a Scrvlcr-3 wid onc
man cnllcd thc ogcncy rcccnlly anntlr~g to know
how hls natural son found him.
"110 wcnl lo tho ndoplcd parcnls and dclnnnd.
cd lo know how tho chlld got (LC irllorntnllon," she ,
' said. "Wcll,.ho ccrtnlnly dldn't gcl I1 from lbls
agency."
Jud IlnDufs, who nsalatcd WIlson In hls
bcorc -8 , mihcr nalurnl mnlhcr In a courlrnom
alter Illring a lawycr lu~d prlvala dclccllvc in her :
scarch.. ,
?Ire womcn ogrccd lo slay out of C~CII olhcr's
personal lives.
Mrs. Ilopula 'r6alIzcs her rclnlionshlp cvlih
her molhcr is llmlled.
"Yort 4on't wan1 to brc& up hcr homc, you t
just wanl lo talk to her. Vk (adoptcml Bavc nothing
to go on bcforo lhc lIrnc.our (adoplcdl parcntl
gtvo us."
Thcro nrc'nbout llvc mllllnn atloptccs In
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Amcrlcn today. At lc;rrt 20,000 nro smrclrlnf! lor
lhclr nnleral parcnls, according lo A~lo)~lccs
Llbcrnllon Movcmcnl Assa*lallon, nn or~anlwllon
Utnt nlds ndoplccs.
Jnmm Wllson now l~clonis lo a nmnll, auccesslul
mlnorlty; 111s scarcl~ llns cndcd.
\'ins It a hnlipy cs~llnfi? "Well, ll'a not really
en cndlng :,. " 118 snld.
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tMO7 Outlon Slrr.1
" No. Hollyweod, CA. PI601
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