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[ COMMUNITy HyDERABADI ]<br />
were both initially quite concerned.<br />
Azhar is the eldest in his family with a<br />
younger sister and brother. His mother is<br />
a practicing gynecologist and they all live<br />
together. Good sense prevailed and the<br />
wedding was performed without too much<br />
of a brouhaha. With the passage of time,<br />
both the families have realized the value<br />
of what the young couple have brought to<br />
the fold.<br />
So what has the journey been like for<br />
Ayesha? “Between my husband and me,<br />
we have a lot of understanding. He is a<br />
very trusting and accommodating person<br />
and helps me a lot. He has given me a lot<br />
of freedom to be my own person. Initially<br />
there were a whole lot of relatives who used<br />
to pass a lot of snide remarks about me. He<br />
used to shield me from all that. I have made<br />
my own compromises and have earned a lot<br />
of respect from the other members of the<br />
immediate family.<br />
“When we started the fashion institute,<br />
we had some teething trouble. Now my<br />
father-in-law and mother-in-law are both<br />
involved in it and I feel that is why we have<br />
been fairly successful.”<br />
Mukul Puitandi Zaheer (55), is the CEO of<br />
Russell’s Institute of Spoken English which was<br />
started in the year 1986 as a small social service<br />
venture. Today, Russell’s is the longest surviving<br />
institute for spoken English in Hyderabad. In<br />
1988, she turned commercial and her husband<br />
also joined her in the venture.<br />
Mukul is the daughter of a bureaucrat;<br />
she was born in Purulia but was brought up<br />
and educated in Delhi. She was working with<br />
the UN in Iran, when she met Mir Ashfaq<br />
Zaheer, a Hyderabadi who was then working<br />
with Iran Air. The two met, fell in love and<br />
decided to make a life together.<br />
They were married in 1981 in Hyderabad.<br />
They have one son who is called Russell and<br />
the institute is named after him. Mukul, who<br />
is known as Nishat at home, laughs and says,<br />
“National Integration!” She is quite satisfied<br />
with the way her life has shaped up. She insists<br />
that she and her husband have both worked<br />
very hard on their marriage, “because a<br />
marriage like this needs dedicated hard work<br />
otherwise it cannot survive!”<br />
She clarified that while she was in Iran,<br />
she discovered that Islam has a very clear<br />
cut connection with the Almighty, and there<br />
are no middlemen required. So when her<br />
Azhar, Chairman, and Ayesha, CEO, Abids Lakhotia<br />
Institute of Art and Design, Abids Lakhotia Institute of<br />
Hospitality and Management<br />
father-in-law who was a retired judge of the<br />
AP High court, asked her to convert, she was<br />
more than ready for it.<br />
Among the hundreds of professionals<br />
making a mark in the field of architecture and<br />
interiors, a name to reckon with is the house<br />
of Siraj and Renu. This couple has built up a<br />
formidable reputation for being exceptional<br />
in their work. Siraj Hassan and his wife Renu<br />
Verma have been married for 35 years and<br />
they have this wonderful understanding<br />
between them which would be the norm<br />
rather than the exception in a marriage and<br />
work partnership which has spanned more<br />
than three decades!<br />
Renu tells me that all the three sisters<br />
– one older and one younger – married<br />
Muslims in Hyderabad. When her elder<br />
sister married way back in ’65, there were<br />
some rumblings from both families. But<br />
when Renu and her younger sister came<br />
of age and wanted to marry out of the<br />
community, the elders were willing to<br />
accept and allow the younger people to<br />
choose their own partners. “My parents<br />
were always open to our interactions with<br />
people from all other communities. I<br />
cannot recall my parents ever speaking ill<br />
about others in any context. We had friends<br />
in school and college and we had neighbors,<br />
from all other religious groups; there were<br />
hardly any Punjabis at that time.”<br />
Mixed marriages of the other kinds<br />
Hyderabad has all kinds of mixed marriages,<br />
other than the Hindu Muslim ones. There<br />
are some quite “mixed up” ones where<br />
there are more than two or three different<br />
cultural and religious groups, married and<br />
happily living together. My friend Susan<br />
is of Christian Malayali-Parsi parentage<br />
and she is married to Anand Jaywant Rao,<br />
the younger son of Telugu-Coorg parents.<br />
He has some Anglo <strong>Indian</strong> cousins and his<br />
elder brother, Dilip is married to Nalini<br />
who is of Hindu - Christian parentage. Her<br />
son has recently married a Brazilian. Susan’s<br />
elder daughter has married a Lebanese<br />
Christian.<br />
Are you still with me? Want some more?<br />
One of Susan’s brothers has married a<br />
Bohri Muslim while her sister, Anu has<br />
married a ‘mohna’ sardar (a shaven Sikh)<br />
The Jaywant Raos celebrate Diwali and<br />
Christmas with equal fervor. There are no<br />
narrow parochial thought processes here-<br />
--they are wonderful citizens of the world<br />
and happy being that way! Their open way<br />
of accepting anyone in their families is very<br />
endearing and attractive. Like Susan says,<br />
“there are no barriers of religion, language<br />
or community” She is a great ‘foodie’ and is<br />
thrilled at the kind of variety of foods that<br />
this whole ‘mixed up’ clan gets on its tables<br />
across the world!<br />
Across the road live the Nagraths a<br />
retired couple living in a quiet bungalow.<br />
He is Punjabi while his wife is a Muslim.<br />
Their daughter, Seema is married to a Mallu<br />
doctor. Brig Nagrath(retd) tells me he has<br />
people from all nationalities in his side of<br />
the family – apparently there are Afghanis,<br />
Bolivians, Argentineans and a couple of<br />
others married into his Punjabi clan! They<br />
live in cities across the world; he and his wife<br />
are the only ones who live in Hyderabad.<br />
My husband’s family were émigrés from<br />
Pakistan. The brothers and sisters grew up in<br />
Hyderabad and now the next generation has<br />
taken the meaning of national integration a<br />
whole step further. In the fold one can count<br />
Sindhis, Telugus, Mallus, Bongs, Tantyas,<br />
Kannadigas , Kashmiri Pandits, Gujjus –<br />
what more do you need? Yes, the far eastern<br />
states are not yet represented. Maybe one of<br />
the next generation will keep that in mind!<br />
Is it Hyderabad?<br />
The spirit of coexistence has been nurtured<br />
in Hyderabad for a very long time, post<br />
the collapse of the Mughal Empire and the<br />
cruel impositions of the last few stalwarts<br />
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